Homomorphism-II, A Revelation

It has been a long time since I saw art that moved me so immensely. Homomorphism- II, is an art exhibition which showcases the work of 7 talented artists from the LGBT community. They have put together a marvellous collection of paintings, drawings, digital illustrations and photographs which reveal different facets of same-sex intimacy.
It was a revelation for me and I caught glimpses of an unfamiliar world which amazed me with its beauty and spirit. The paintings conveyed so many emotions – freedom, acceptance, beauty, sensuousness, fragility, fun and so much more.
A particular exhibit which caught my eye was a series of four photographs of a young man, neck upwards. The intense vulnerability in his eyes seared my mind.
An inconspicuous book of photographs sits in one corner of the room. Each photo features a chair/sofa in different settings. The condition of the chairs vary in each picture, whether it be by the seashore or in an urban backyard. The artist was able to draw an exquisite analogy between the isolation of the chairs and the situation of homosexuals in society. The chairs were by turn battered, bruised, broken and abandoned. Yet they all stood defiantly alone. These photographs leave a lasting impression of fortitude and strength.
I loved the aesthetically beautiful portrayal of same-sex intimacy. There was a tenderness and beauty in the art which was refreshing. The popular perception of homosexuals as effeminate caricatures was smashed to pieces by the 7 artists through their work. It was fascinating to see the beauty of the male form as seen through a man’s eyes.
It was a mind-blowing experience and I really look forward to seeing more from these artists. The event was organised by Queerala, an organisation that represents and supports the LGBTQ community in Kerala.
The artists featured are : Aishwaryan K, Arvin O, Santanu D, Pragya P, Mahesh M and Jijo Q

The Kindest Eyes

Those eyes. Mahua loved them. The love and strength reflecting in them were the only things that kept her going on some days. Her sister often teased her about her obsession with those eyes. Mahua knew that it wasn’t just love. It was something beyond that. She knew that he too had a special place in his heart for her.
Just one more day to Valentine’s Day. She hoped that he would have good news for her on that day. Taking a deep breath, she shook her head to clear all the muddled thoughts in there. Today promised to be a busy day; the Poetry Slam she was organizing in college was happening in the evening. There was a lot of work left. Mahua hurried out of her room, hugging her father and pinching her mother’s cheeks on the way out. They laughed at her zest for life, but there was a strain in those faces. They too knew the significance of Valentine’s Day.
Mahua zoomed out of the building on her dad’s Bullet. He strongly disapproved of her taking his bike to college, but some days she craved to be reckless. She wanted to feel the wind buffeting her face and sunshine warming her soul. She felt full of life, as if nothing could touch her.
The man with the kindest eyes was in his office. The eyes were weary. This room was the only place he could let down his guard and let all the worries sweep over him. No matter how grey his hair became or how many grooves appeared on his forehead, he couldn’t stay detached. He removed his glasses and gazed out of his window at the cat snoozing on a patch of sunshine. Just one more day to go. Mahua’s test reports were scheduled for February 14th. Some days, being a doctor felt like the heaviest burden on earth. But this time he was optimistic. This time he was sure that the Chemo had worked.

True Love

Yash was engrossed in his work, his overgrown hair falling over his face and obscuring his frown of concentration. He hated it but kept it long since it seemed to drive his father crazy. When would his dad treat him like the 14-year-old he was and not a snotty child like his younger brother Rishi. The insufferable shrimp was so well-behaved that it made Yash look like a surly adolescent. His amma was the only person who seemed to see him as he was. But she was busy with the business she was setting up with her friend. Yash was so proud of her, but he felt awkward showing it and so he stayed out of her way.

The attic was his refuge. Nobody came here and he was free to be himself. He loved to sit in the shabby space and draw. No one knew that he loved to draw. Yash’s classmates would have been mortified if they came to know of it. He could sit here for hours and sketch. “Amma would be shocked if she saw me now”, he thought. She wouldn’t recognize him with his hair tied back and a sketchbook in his hands.

Yash’s thoughts turned to Valentine’s day. It was just three days away and he had made plans with Rhea to meet after school. He hoped that she would agree to be his girlfriend. He had even bought a gift for her with his pocket-money, her favourite book. He just couldn’t understand her love of books, and he had never had the patience to read a book from start to finish. “What a lot of effort amma took to get me to read !” he thought ruefully. But all that had paid off with the shrimp. Rishi always had his head buried in a book.

Yash heard a car starting and he went to the tiny window to see who was leaving at this late hour. Amma stood at the gate looking at the departing taxi. Yash remembered that his father was going away for a month on work. She looked so lonely standing there. He placed his palm on the windowpane as though he could send her his love through the glass.

Next day morning saw the usual chaos at the breakfast table. Yash was teasing Rishi who was almost in tears, but Sunaina was unusually distracted. She was missing her husband. They had always spend Valentines day together. This year it would be just Rishi and her since Yash was sure to have made plans with his friends.

“Ma, do you have any plans for Valentines day?” asked Yash. Sunaina just shook her head mutely.

“I’ll be at home darling” she said. “ You just don’t stay out late since it’s a school night.” Yash couldn’t bear to see his amma so dejected and he made a decision.

“Ma, will you be my Valentine? “



The Wait

The sea breeze ruffled her hair and she inhaled the scent of damp seaweed and boiled peanuts. The flaming red sari fluttered about her ankles and she tightened her hold on his hand. This was all that she had ever wanted, Ravi’s hand clasped in hers and his presence by her side. Prabha and Ravi were the least romantic couple you could find, but February 9th was special. This was the day she had agreed to marry him, and he always insisted that they come to the beach. She insisted on wearing the red sari. Red was his favourite colour and not hers. The beach was her favourite place and not his. But on this day, both of them insisted on doing something that the other enjoyed.

Today was about all the things they loved to do together. The trip to the animal shelter, a visit to his best friend’s house, lunch at Annapoorna, a quiet hour at the library, a long drive with the voices of Lata and Rafi to keep them company, ending with time at the beach. The routine never varied but they didn’t want it to. It held the charm of familiarity that both of them craved.

Prabha woke up with a start. She was at home curled up in the armchair by the window. Wearily she got up and got ready for bed. In the bathroom mirror she noticed that the greys in her hair and the smudges under her eyes were more pronounced than ever. Today she just couldn’t look at the photograph on the wall. It had been keeping her company for ten years, ever since he left. She took out his shirt, which nestled among her saris. As she closed her eyes, willing the tears away, the heavy loneliness almost crushing her, she hugged his shirt closer. As always the scent of cuticura powder that still clung to it soothed her mind like nothing else could. Slowly she slid into sleep hoping to meet him in her dreams.

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(Love is strange. It appears in different forms. The most placid lives may hold the most turbulent passions. This series of stories is about Love as experienced by people like you and me who have so many stories within us, yet think of ourselves as ordinary.)


My desk has an empty space the size of a calendar. The old one resides in the bin, its edges sticking out, saying goodbye to its home. I clean my cluttered desk, a thin film of dust covering the books I hadn’t read and the tin containing broken bits of incense sticks I had received as a gift. The little orange Ganesha resting between two piles of books stares at me benevolently, wondering when I will explore the path that has been ordained for me. Why am I stubbornly resisting the course charted by the planets at the time of my birth ? The cocktail of genes residing in my body trying to redraw the blueprint of my life.

A new year has arrived and I have a compulsion to sweep all the detritus of the past year away. I throw away crumpled bills and stained receipts; creased pieces of paper holding records of kilograms of rice consumed and packets of detergent used. There’re sweat stained tokens from the library and even a yellowed packet of tissues hiding behind yet another teetering pile of notebooks.

I pause for a moment thinking of the memories of laughter, love, tears and regrets that I had accumulated over the year. What do I do with those? Shall I tuck them within the blank pages of my notebook, to be taken out on a rainy day when I’m in a nostalgic mood. In fact what better way to spend a rainy day – raindrops weaving sensuously down the window pane, the deep baritone of Gulzar’s voice in the air and an encounter with old memories. A chance to experience again the contentment of tasks accomplished and love fulfilled.Or shall I free them, so they can fly away on daring gusts of wind to faraway places, emptying my mind and forcing me to create new ones. Maybe I’ll store those reminiscences in my penholder where they will stay between the pens and brightly coloured pencils, inhaling the fragrance of lead and ink and sharing the space with unused words which have drifted away from my diary.

My desk is cleared. It’s dust free and neat. But it’s not me any more. Let me mess it up a bit, pile up unused notebooks and unopened envelopes; leave imprints of my fingers on the dust coating that tiny corner. Let me free the coils of my headphones from their cover and let them trail all over my pencils. Let me be who I am. Starting a new year with traces of the past swirling around me.





The Orchard of Possibilities

(I attended a Writers Retreat organised by Paper House, an organisation founded by two amazing people, Tara Khandelwal and Mahima Sood. The venue was Shilla Treks, an apple orchard in the hills. It was an unforgettable experience and I came back raring to write. I tried to pen a conventional post about my experiences there but the Words took over and wrote their own version)


There were eleven wordsmiths at the Orchard of Possibilities. They were like pebbles on a beach, seemingly alike but of different shapes, sizes and temperament. They arrived on a clear day, welcomed by a freshly washed blue sky and the soothing melody of silence. The cool mountain air brushed the weariness from minds and the warmth of the welcome loosened the bands constricting their hearts. The words loved these magicians who conjured up entire worlds and ecosystems out of thin air; who created glass palaces under aquamarine waters, gritty crime scenes with splattered blood and grime, dingy hallways redolent of the anguish of broken dreams and the smell of defeat, and delved into ordinary lives and extracted moments of exquisite beauty. The magicians used words like the most valuable gold dust.

The mountains were silent witnesses to these words that swirled around as pale wraiths of mist on a foggy morning. The words swarmed over blades of grass, weathered rooftops, pale brown cobblestones and apple trees until a confetti of deconstructed sentences festooned every available surface. They jumped over the valley and bathed in the colour diffused from rainbows. The words never got a moment’s rest; slipping and sliding over tongues and alighting on the curves of ears. Then off they went, perched jauntily on ideas that floated on dust motes. They tumbled madly around Sirius, the resident canine who was an expert at capturing hearts. Adjectives kissed his wet nose and sped away while commas and question marks got entangled in his furry coat. Endearments coyly settled around his neck while Sirius gambolled around in glee.

The words clamoured to be with the disparate creatures who bonded over literary discussions, cigarette smoke and countless cups of tea. Their bloodshot eyes spoke of conversations that ranged far into the night and the delight of finding solace from strangers who became friends for life. Poems were recited under starry skies, stories were read aloud. Thoughts and ideas, though hesitantly aired initially, were soon zinging around on wings of acceptance.

The cold evenings spent around golden flames of the bonfire saw the words battling with glowing embers, the dark velvet of night a silent witness. The embers died down but the words lived on forever.

Soon it was time to leave this idyllic haven and trudge back to reality. They left with heavy hearts, but their minds had found new worlds to explore and new paths to follow. The words left with them, snuggled cosily between the papers of their notebooks.

The Orchard hunkered down with a deep sigh. Soon a heavy blanket of snow would envelop it, refresh its weary soul and leave it fresh for a new batch of wordsmiths.


Why I Write

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I write to clear the cobwebs from my brain. I write to inhale the fragrance of half-baked thoughts that come alive on paper. I write to test the limits of sanity. I write to banish insanity. I write to see the loops and swirls that my pen makes on the pristine paper. I write to tell stories. I write to transport myself to distant places, of mango orchards and summer afternoons. I write to dip my hot dusty feet in the crystal clear waters of brooks, and to inhale the intoxicating scent of the blood red roses that grow wild on the hillside.

I write to recall the warmth hidden in those brown eyes.

I write to calm my muddled mind. I write to feel the pain from cramped fingers tightly gripping the pen. I write to form opinions. I write to scatter my thoughts in the wind. I write to laugh at the folly of life, and to weep at the sadness that curls itself around my slowly beating heart. I write to mock my thoughts that presume to a seriousness that aren’t their own. I write to quell the deep sigh that threatens to smother me in its depth. I write to stand on the highest mountain and swoop down on the wings of an eagle.

I write to draw breath.

I write to bring tales from the house with no windows. I write of dragons and sorcerers and the girl with broken spectacles. I write to imitate. I write to flatter. I write to procrastinate. I write to remember.

I write of fear and vengeance, to keep it out of my heart. I write of the innocent laughter of babies, and the hope residing deep in the folds of weather beaten faces, to keep them close to my heart.

I write to forget. I write to drown myself in the sea of aquamarine dreams and slate grey promises. I write to stir my senses like the worst thunderstorm.

I write………

Cauliflowers And Police Stations

I never dreamt that I would ever have to enter a police station in my life, but fate evidently was in a snarky mood when I had that thought, for it immediately decided that I would enter those hallowed premises, not once but thrice. Thankfully it was with regard to a missing document and not due to any overtly violent acts on my part.

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Apparently, when certain types of documents go missing, a police complaint has to be filed. It sounds absurdly simple – just another friendly visit to meet the courageous men and women who keep our streets safe. Great thing to do provided the person does not have an intense fear of policemen. I never thought I was that kind of person. In my mind, I could see myself strolling into a police station, smiling serenely at the occupants, exchanging friendly banter regarding the weather or the law and order situation, getting my work done with a twinkly-eyed smiling officer of the law and walking out after warm goodbyes. When the decision was taken to file a complaint, I was ready for banter and bonhomie. After all there was no crime involved, so I would be in and out in a jiffy.

Note to self: Police personnel are never twinkly-eyed and their default expression is an unsmiling unblinking stare.

That is a good expression for a crocodile sunning itself on the banks of the Nile, but human beings should smile especially when the other person, viz myself, is coming there for the first time and that too with a lot of expectations of good cheer. I realized the absurdity of my expectations within a few nanoseconds of entering the police station. The policemen were scrupulously polite and helpful, but I was petrified beyond all reason. My gracious smile ended up as a cross between a smile and abject fear, which I’m sorry to say, must have been a terrible thing to behold. Thankfully I didn’t have to see my own face. I was also beset by an acute desire to use the washroom. And this seemed to play havoc with my sense of hearing. I’m sure that esteemed gentleman must have wistfully wished for an uncomplicated pickpocket or even a common variety thief, instead of the blithering blob of jelly he had to deal with.

The first two visits were quite short ones and I managed to escape without too much damage to myself or to the policemen on duty. But the third visit was to collect a certificate and when I went there I realized to my utter dismay that I would have to wait for some time. I was cordially ushered into a room and asked to sit. I don’t remember much of my journey from the door of the room to the chair, but an alcoholic octopus would have been steadier than me. Once again I was before an unsmiling policeman who fortunately was engaged in writing in a register. It was just me, the policeman and my completely insane attitude in that room. There were people walking in and out, each busy with their work.

When I’m nervous I either yawn or talk. Since the former was out of the question, I needed to talk. But I didn’t think nonsensical chatter would be well received by the company. Then I had this insane desire to confess all my sins starting from the time I was a toddler and had sent an idly flying from the dining table. That too would not have been welcomed by my uniformed companion. So I desperately tried to think of other things which would ease the constipated look on my face. I thought about books and stories, and that calmed me down a bit until a stray thought flitted into my mind. I had read somewhere that people who tell lies touch their ears while doing so. The policeman chose this moment to complete his writing assignment and engage in some friendly chatter. The utter horror ! I was determined that I wouldn’t touch my ears in case my answers were considered untruthful. It was crazy, but I could feel my ears. I hardly give a second thought to my ears unless somebody is shouting into them. But at that juncture I became aware of these two appendages on either side of my head. I felt them expanding and I just wanted to tweak them and bring them down to normal size. I had to sit on my hands to keep them from zooming in on my ears. After a while, I felt as if I had two cauliflowers hanging from my head.

Note to policemen: Please do not try to engage in casual chitchat when the person before you feels they have vegetables coming out of their heads.

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Thankfully, within a short time the certificate was ready and I was informed of the same. Just as it was being handed over to me, I wanted to laugh. I could feel a huge guffaw building within, and that was not a good sign. Somehow I managed to ruthlessly suppress it and all that came out was a snort. While the policeman gave me a very bemused look I mumbled a few words of gratitude and shot out of there. The speed of my exit would have made any Olympic medalist envious.

Looking back, an exercise that I never intend to do again, I still can’t fathom what happened to my ears that day. But I cannot look at a cauliflower without thinking of policemen.

Fragrance of a Flower

It’s raining here in Kerala, my favourite time of the year. Yesterday, as I was waiting outside my apartment building, I spotted a flower on the wet ground. It had fallen from the Chembaka tree that stands guard outside our building. On a whim I picked up the flower and felt the waxy petals, soft and curling around the edges. I realized that I hadn’t touched a flower in a very long time. The tiny screen of my phone offers a plethora of images of glossy exotic flowers when required, but the actual sensation of running my fingers over a flower had eluded me. The joy of inhaling the scent of summer afternoons and wet rainy days that flowers hold within them had been missing from my life.

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I love plants and flowers. Unfortunately I’m a very unsuccessful gardener, what with my brown thumbs and propensity for killing houseplants. So I’ve been staying away from flora of any kind, satisfying my inner gardener by draping myself over the balcony railing and gazing down soulfully at my neighbor’s amazing garden. Recently I couldn’t control myself and brought home two hapless plants. I stay as far away from them as possible but still the leaves tremble when I pass by. The thought does pop up in my mind whether the reason is the playful wind or brown-thumbed me.

While my love-story with plants proceeds on its rocky path, my relationship with flowers has been more cordial. It might also be due to the memories associated with the fragrances of different flowers. As I caressed the petals of my fallen flower yesterday, I was overwhelmed by a mélange of precious memories which tumbled out from my room of memories and settled all around me. At that moment I couldn’t savour them as I had to leave. But I gathered them up and shook them out that night while I curled up in bed with the soothing murmur of raindrops keeping me company.

There’s a wealth of possibility in a flower. It’s capable of arousing the most varied emotions in a person, just by being. The scent of tuberoses takes me back to my wedding. I can’t help smiling when I think of my grandmother’s strict instructions not to be too talkative during the ceremony to the bridegroom who had been my best friend for the past two years. Or the part where my father, who was supposed to place my hand in Mr A’s hand, happily took the latter’s hand and placed it in mine. The memories give me a chance to see my father’s hearty smile and feel his presence once again.

The flowers also transport me back to my mother’s puja room where the slightly floral scent of incense together with the dim glow of the oil lamp combined to give an otherworldly feeling. It was the place where my mother communed with Gods who had benevolent eyes and Mona Lisa smiles. No matter the turmoil in my mind, this memory centers me and gives me peace.

Jasmine flowers are largely associated with love and longing, but to me they are symbols of the simplicity of my childhood. We had a jasmine plant at home that was diligently nurtured by our household help, a wonderful lady with the greenest thumb I’ve ever seen. Unfortunately, even though the plant grew lush and healthy, it did not yield many flowers. But every evening, she would collect a couple of those flowers, which made up for their sparse numbers by their intoxicating scent, place them in a small dish and keep it on our dining table. If the number of flowers increased even marginally, they would be placed in the puja room. Nostalgic memories of a seemingly uncomplicated life.

A fallen flower can also take me to my college days when windy rainy afternoons and overcast skies brought with it a feeling of anticipation and romance. Gusts of wind carrying the fragrance of life and the freshness of rain would sweep flowers off their perches on trees, some to be trampled, others to be blown away and some special ones to be given to dear ones.

These and many more thoughts associated with flowers flit through my mind like a silent film which only I can watch. As I lie in bed cozily wrapped in those warm memories I am lulled into sleep clutching that fallen chembaka flower in my hand.

Custodians of Stories

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There are billions and billions of stories floating around in the world. Then there are those stories which are unique to every family – tales of love transcending time and distance, of sorrow that pervades even the dust motes, bitter enmity, secret loves, not so secret misunderstandings, childhood pranks and improbably hilarious moments involving the most serious members. Every member of the family finds a mention in such stories, from the most introverted to the most ebullient. In fact one of my father’s uncles, who apparently was extremely stern and somber, was the main protagonist in a hysterically funny story involving boats, benches and a displacement from the bench to the earth. Achan’s family abounds with the most fantastic storytellers and the older they are the more descriptive and interesting their stories. The most ear-splitting guffaws and roars of laughter marks any family gathering. Oh yeah, I forgot to mention that most of us would win any laughter competition hands down, if it were judged solely on decibel levels. The protagonists of these tales were often the ones who laughed the loudest. This laughter was like miraculous glue which bound us together and celebrated the uniqueness of our family. It was also the scaffolding, which propped us up during innumerable instances of loss and bereavements.

On my mother’s side, the story telling sessions are not so loud but yet retains the magic of a bygone era when my mother and her siblings travelled the length and breadth of Kerala following the dictates of my grandfather’s profession. He was a judge and one of the most learned and benevolent person’s I’ve ever met. The backdrops of these stories were constantly changing, flitting from the vast rubber plantations of Pala to the narrow bylanes of Alappuzha. I’ve often wished to be a part of those uncomplicated times when the evening entertainment involved listening to the Tamil film songs wafting on the air from a nearby theatre. The characters inhabiting these tales were fewer but no less interesting. My mother, being the eldest, featured in most of the stories. One of my favourites has Amma in the lead role, and this happened when she was six or seven years old. Apparently the boundary wall of their house overlooked a steep drop, with the road lying far below. Amma and her sisters were strictly forbidden from climbing or peeping over the wall. One day when my grandfather was returning from work for his lunch, his blood ran cold on seeing the scene before him. My Amma was up on the wall, casually strolling up and down, with a smile on her lips and not a care in the world. He was paralysed with shock for a few moments since any slip on her part could be fatal. Suppressing his anxiety under a warm smile, he slowly approached her murmuring sweet endearments. He was afraid to raise his voice in case she took fright and lost her balance. Amma was quite happy to be the center of attention and she basked in the sweetness of her father’s words. As soon as he got next to her, he slowly reached up and brought her down to the ground. Once she was safe he let loose. There was thunder and lightning and copious tears from the little perpetrator of the crime. Amma still smiles very sheepishly when she recalls the dressing down she got from him. It was so bad that she has never disobeyed him after that.

Unsurprisingly, most of my favourite childhood memories are of family get-togethers. After a huge lunch, all of us would land up in my grandparents’ room. It was a cool spacious room with two big wooden beds set against the walls; wooden windows with pretty flowered curtains, a ‘chaaru kasera’ (reclining chair) and my ammumma’s wooden almirah added to the sublime charm of those sepia toned memories. While appuppan and ammumma relaxed on the beds, my younger uncle who is always the chief narrator sprawled on the cool floor. The aunts leaned back against the beds with their legs stretched out and we kids snuggled up in whatever space we could find. The conversation usually started with a discussion about the meal and what was good or bad about it. This part held no interest for me and I would wait eagerly for the stories to come tumbling out. Thankfully I wouldn’t have to wait long before ammavan gently started on a foray into their childhood. And out would come all the delightful exploits, peopled with endearingly colourful characters. I loved a particular grand-aunt whose sense of humour was fantastic and at the same time slightly weird. She revelled in frightening them with casual suggestions of the spirits of long dead ancestors dropping in for a chat and about the sounds of anklets she had heard one night. We’ve heard these tales countless times and yet each version is received with the same amount of fervor and interest. These anecdotal accounts would continue unabated until ammumma got up to make the evening tea. The aunts would follow her and the rest of us would stretch out, take up all the available space and fondly think about all that we had heard.

Another reason why I’m so attracted to such sessions is the opportunity to meet loved ones who have left us. So many who were such an integral part of my life and whom we lost appear in the stories narrated at family gatherings. The affection and intense love with which they are talked about is more touching than the grandest eulogy.

When I think about all these anecdotes which have been passed down through generations, I’m struck by the fact that not a single one of these instances were ever captured on film or recorded on a device; the sights, smells and the atmosphere of tales from the past were captured by the people who were wholeheartedly involved in those moments. Every single member was immersed in those parcels of time.

The question I keep asking myself today is “Aren’t we losing that essence when we let ourselves be captured by the demands of our phones and cameras ?” Today we are more interested in recording an event on camera rather than living that moment. These countless pictures are stored in yet another device, never to be seen again while we have no idea of whom we met or what we did at an event we attended. Our lives are not going to be blighted if we do not continuously take pictures of a wedding or a family event that we attend. If we step away from our devices, there’s a wonderful world out there waiting to be experienced, and so many opportunities to store beautiful memories in our minds, which can be taken out and relived countless times whenever we wish, and at whatever stage of life we may be at…..


Bread and Blyton

I grew up on descriptions of food by Enid Blyton. She mesmerized me with visions of scrumptious scones, huge chocolate cakes, sweet sticky lemonade, farm fresh golden butter and of course the crusty soft slices of beautiful white bread. Even a cold glass of frothy milk was elevated to the status of something heavenly in the pages of her books. I have mournfully worked my way through idly and dosa while reading about delicious marmalade, hard-boiled eggs and toast. Now I wonder whether I was crazy to ignore the delicious fluffy idlis and fragrant sambar and dream about toast. Just goes to show that my current level of madness was honed over many years 🙂

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Pic courtesy:Rajesh_India; Flickr

Anyway coming back to the saga of food, another favourite during my childhood was the sandwich. I had given it an aura of greatness partly because we rarely had it at home and partly because of the descriptions given by Enid Blyton (She does have a lot to answer for !) When I read of slices of pink ham placed between thick crusty slices of fresh bread, I was ready to run away from home and stow away on a steamer to London. All these delectable items were available in the country side of England and that was my target. An innate sense of laziness combined with a slight fear of the dark curbed my tendencies to explore the world. And also I was having a lot of fun with friends. The level of deception required to get away from home was totally beyond me. Those were the days when my mother would take one look at me and find out that I had not done my homework, in spite of my attempts at Oscar-award level histrionics. So the question of secretly running away was slightly far-fetched even for my imagination.

Another contributing factor to my love of sandwiches was the lunch brought to school by a classmate when I was in Class 2. She was a very dainty child who brought sandwiches for lunch. Even though I loved food, the top priority during lunch time was to gobble food in record speed and proceed to the playground for playing. As we were cramming food into our mouths, she would carefully open her lunch box and delicately take out a sandwich, which was then artfully consumed. Her sandwiches were always cut into squares and I remember that she had beautiful fingers, with which she elegantly transported the bread to her mouth.

Growing up involved a journey of realization of the actual taste of certain kinds of food. It was with a pang that  I faced up to the fact that hard-boiled eggs have only so much to them. A glass of milk is that and nothing more. Ham sandwiches were really not my cup of tea and don’t even get me started on scones. It was just differently shaped bread ! I apologise to the purists who will be ‘scornfully’ perusing my litany on scones.

However, my love for bread continues with the same intensity, though my favourite still remains the crusty loaves made by local bakeries. I love the rustic feel of the thick slabs of soft bread with a lovely aroma to it. Bread, butter and jam remains my favourite combination. With these kind of tastes, it’s particularly difficult for me when I go to eateries like Subway who insist on tormenting me with choices. I just want a normal sandwich, but nobody is willing to listen. I have to make so many decisions! And after the entire rigmarole of selecting umpteen things for a sandwich, I end up with something which I don’t particularly like !

So now I don’t venture into the realm of niche eateries, preferring to have my own decadent bread-butter-jam at home. Slathering the golden butter on to a soft slice of bread and sealing it with another slice with the barest minimum layer of jam, is my personal route to nirvana. No other flavour of jam is allowed to enter a sandwich than mixed-fruit. I love apple-cinnamon and various other stuff, but there’s nothing like mixed-fruit to enhance the flavor of the sandwich.

Nowadays it’s considered almost blasphemous to consume white bread, and there are a huge variety of artisan breads baked by extremely talented bakers. I too indulge in the different varieties, but my taste buds have been conquered by the mundane flavour of white bread.

I still indulge in a bit of Enid Blyton to catch up on childhood memories. The food descriptions do not affect me as much as it did earlier, but I do feel a bit hungry when there are midnight feasts at Mallory Towers and St Clairs, and the Famous Five tuck into picnic lunches packed lovingly by Aunt Fanny.

The Magic of Typewriters

Pic Courtesy: Dan Wiedbrauk ; Flickr
Pic Courtesy: Dan Wiedbrauk ; Flickr

I have this completely irrational love for typewriters. In spite of never having owned or used one, I’m overcome by the desire to possess one of these machines. I remember people from my parents’ generation lamenting on the kind of mess associated with the typewriter; ink-stains on fingers and clothes and the inability to erase more than a couple of words being just a few. But those very factors increased their attractiveness in my mind during those days. I secretly admired these quirky machines that could create such havoc in the lives of adults. They too had smudged fingers and clothes !

For a few years in my early childhood we stayed in an old house, with big rooms, a tiled roof and a mango tree in the compound. My father’s office was on the top floor and we resided on the ground floor. Not a very conducive environment from a child’s point of view because of the increased number of adults in the vicinity, which certainly was a dampener for pursuits of a mischievous nature. However my brother and I still managed to circumvent this obstacle. I have fond memories of my brother climbing onto the roof of the two-storey building and getting his foot trapped between tiles. Caused quite an uproar but it was well worth it for the absolutely high adventure quotient. I digress. Steering the story back to my typewriter-love, my father’s office was the first place I met this beautiful machine. We were expressly forbidden from going upstairs and causing havoc in that serious environment. Mostly we followed this rule.

However, there were rare occasions when tootling around in familiar environs got boring and I would sneak upstairs . As long as I stayed out of my father’s orbit it was fine. The uncles would spare indulgent glances for us before returning to their work. My favourite was the diminutive Gopi uncle who was the typist. He had twinkling eyes and the most welcoming smile. I remember gazing with rapt attention at his wizardry with the typewriter.

Staccato taps on the keys let loose an army of alphabets onto the paper. Gopi uncle was the brilliant commander who conquered vast swathes of pristine white paper with his alphabet soldiers. They huddled in groups big and small and a few brave soldiers stood alone. The font was so beautiful and each alphabet had a distinct character, with jovial O’s and straight-laced A’s giving each other company.

The entire process, starting with inserting glossy carbon paper between the crisp sheets of white paper, rolling it smartly into the typewriter with just the ends sticking out, the act of typing, the confident whack on the side of the machine to bring the paper back to the right side, all this combined to form a beautifully choreographed routine. He had a small cloth which he used to wipe his fingers from time to time. Those were the days when somebody would convert the head honcho’s words into squiggles of shorthand which was then typed out into language that could be deciphered by mere mortals. And that was another source of astonishment to me. Myriad patterns crammed into tiny pieces of paper was perused by Gopi uncle before he started firing away at the typewriter and churning out torrents of words. How could I not think that he was anything other than a magician !

I’m amazed when I look back now and realize that I never tried my hand at typing, even though Gopi uncle would surely have indulged me if I’d asked.This speaks volumes for the degree of reverence with which I viewed typewriters, since I was a very curious child and believed in poking my nose into everything.

My next tryst with a typewriter happened when my father gifted a Brother typewriter to my older sibling, who had just started out on a career in journalism. It was a very compact model with its own cover and looked quite sleek. But I had already given my heart to Gopi Uncle’s old machine and the new aspirant to that position was not stately enough to take its place. My brother still reminisces fondly about his typewriter.

Now I live in the hope of getting my hands on a working typewriter. I have wonderful plans of typing out my poems and posts on it and getting inducted in the secret society of typists, where ink-stained fingers are viewed as badges of honour. I feel that my words would be infused with the magic that resides in the keys of typewriters, which can be unlocked only by those who love it.



Pic Courtesy : Gustav Klim
Pic Courtesy : Gustav Klim


triumphantly surging


riding the blood red waves

dallying with each nerve ending.

pushing. punishing.

The soft pulsing heart

vulnerable, unprotected

hacked to pieces.

Scythes of anger, neglect and despair

shredding it with deep cuts

that bled love.

The pain sped forward

up into the grey cells

vanquishing every frontier

leaving splashes of grisly matter

churning up memories

corroding the good ones

underscoring the rest.

The battle was lost

she awoke to a new day

with blank eyes and

a wounded mind.

Wiped clean of everything

that mattered

left with nothing





I Too Would Have Got A Medal

Pic Courtesy: J Aaron Farr
Pic Courtesy: J Aaron Farr

The number of people falling off their chairs due to excessive displays of hilarity on reading the heading would surely have increased, but I stick strongly to what I say – I too would have bagged an Olympic medal. Of course the next part has to contain an ‘If only’, and I will not disappoint you there. If only the Olympic Committee had decided to include the events in which I had any kind of talent, I would have been strutting around with a Gold medal (behold modesty of gargantuan proportions!)

I was a sporty child; in fact anything that didn’t entail studying was of great interest to me. I indulged in all kinds of sports, played in the unique style that any child from a middle class Indian family in the 70’s and 80’s would identify with. Badminton rackets were initially made of wood and were used more as accessories in a fight with siblings rather than for playing, and of course for vigorous sessions of air-guitar. But soon we graduated to the lighter rackets. Unfortunately the beautiful feathered shuttlecocks were replaced by plastic ones, which were hell to play with. However the nets remained the same, which invariably was the gate of somebody’s house. The only problem was if we got into an argument with the player whose house it happened to be, in which case the chances of losing the net was directly proportional to the intensity of the argument. However, we would not let this tiny technical difficulty affect us in any way and played without a net, but this meant that every second stroke was a smash. So this was used only as a last resort. Gradually I severed my connection with this sport and progressed to Table Tennis.

I remember being quite taken up with this game because of the tiny bats and the white ping-pong balls which reminded me of rasagullas. My older sibling was my coach, a situation very conducive to constant bickering. Our dining table became the TT table and a row of strategically balanced books stretching across the middle formed the net. The only drawback to this arrangement was that we spend more time under the table and in various other nooks and crannies retrieving the ball than in actually playing. But a combination of favourable factors, like rainy days and an enthusiastic brother who was thrilled to trounce me in every game, lead to an extended period of Table tennis. Eventually I got tired of never winning and spending most of the time under tables and other pieces of furniture. Thus my career in Table Tennis was not as magnificient as I envisaged.

But I must say that I participated quite enthusiastically in other games which unfortunately do not seem to have caught the attention of the Olympic Committee. There was this very interesting game called Seven Tiles (For a long time I used to call this Seventees). A rubber ball, seven small flat pieces of stone and two teams with at least 2 players in each one, were all that was required to play. I’ve played this both in school and with my neighbourhood friends and I’ve loved this game no matter the venue. The rules of the game are quite simple; players get grouped into two teams, one group tries to knock down the stack of seven stones by throwing a ball at it, and then try to stack it back and the other team tries to stop the stacking by hitting them with the ball. It does sound a bit violent, but believe me it was the greatest fun. My favourite part was running around in circles shouting manically. While playing with my neighbourhood friends, the noise level was amazing with older boys letting loose bloodcurdling yells. I can easily picture them in pre-historic times hunting down hapless dinosaurs. As for my skills in this particular game, I now realize that they were quite insignificant. Due to my superior aim, I would hit my own team members if I aimed at the opposing team. Even a shot at the stack of stones was fraught with danger – for the other players. Hence my role was largely restricted to running around wildly. And my efforts at evading the ball were also not very successful since I would be beset by deer-in-the-headlight syndrome when someone aimed at me. My brain would be telling me to jump like a swift-footed gazelle while my body decided to take the path of the slowest of sloths. So, on second thoughts I think its good that ‘Seven Tiles’ did not catch the eyes of the Olympic Committee.

But I’m sure that I was quite good at a game we used to play in school, which involved running around a circle of students. The name completely eludes me but I remember deriving an enormous amount of satisfaction from it. This wasn’t a team game; the entire class sat around in a circle and the Catcher had to walk around the circle and drop a handkerchief behind another student and then avoid being caught by the latter. This too had a lot of running around in circles ! I remember that all the students forming the circle had to sing a song which went- ‘I send a letter to my father, On the way I dropped it, Someone came and picked it up and put it in his pocket.’ The word ‘pocket’ was the cue for the Catcher to drop the handkerchief and hightail it. I loved the running part, especially since I could chat to friends in the circle while I was galloping around. I wonder if the Olympic Committee would consider including this highly entertaining game. I’m sure it would foster friendship and camaraderie among the nations of the world. One cannot remain unmoved when one sings of sending letters to family members ! There was yet another game involving handkerchiefs, titled ‘Dog and the Bone’. I’m not a big fan of this since it requires aggression and speed, both of which I lack. So I would definitely not be bringing this up when I meet Thomas Bach, the president of the International Olympic Committee.

Another favourite of mine was called Chain, and the name is self-explanatory. The Catcher ran around tagging people and each one would then link hands with the Catcher. This is totally my kind of game. It was great fun to be a part of a long meandering line of people holding hands and running. There would be some really competitive souls who made sure that the chain actually moved in the right direction. I remember trotting along contentedly, catching up on news with the girls on either side of me. This definitely has to be on the Olympic Committee’s list.

There were many more delightful games like Lock and Key, Crocodile crocodile can we cross the golden river, and Hopscotch, which I feel, should be actively considered for inclusion. I look forward to the day when my picture too shall be splashed across the front pages of National Dailies, holding hands with my Chain teammates and smiling victoriously. Until then, its back to mom-duties and book-dates 🙂


Udta Punjab – A Film Review


The CBFC’s wrangle with the makers of Udta Punjab was the best thing and the worst thing that could have happened to it. The former because the controversy has built up interest in the movie like nothing else would have, and the latter because the expectations are now sky-high and unfortunately the movie is not able to meet it. I walked out of the theatre with a sense of disappointment and dissatisfaction unfurling within me. It was as if a favourite sports team, which reached the finals after a tough fight, decided to play down their strengths and ended up with a draw. It’s a good film no doubt, with a powerful star cast, but it could have been so much better.

Perennial back-slapping, annoyingly cheerful people, tons of food, huge frothing glasses of lassi, songs at the drop of a hat, garish weddings and equally loud clothes – such is the picture of Punjabis that Bollywood has shown us. Director Abhishek Chaubey shows us a Punjab devoid of all these stereotypes. Dusty villages, people sitting around lethargically with vacant eyes, and a generation succumbing effortlessly to the lure of drugs are some scenes which remain in our minds even after exiting the theater. There certainly are the ubiquitous lush green fields, but the workers are mostly women especially migrant workers from Bihar and other states. The smokescreen that mainstream Bollywood throws on Punjab is removed for a moment and the resultant image is bleak and anguishing.

Udta Punjab is a good film with a strong message. There’re 3 storylines, each approaching the central issue of drugs from different angles. We get a glimpse into the lives of a cop, a doctor who runs a de-addiction center and two end users. Each of them represent the many facets of a menace that is threatening to engulf the state of Punjab. Sartaj Singh (Diljit Dosanjh) is a corrupt cop who doesn’t mind turning a blind eye to drug smuggling as long as he gets his cut. When his brother is admitted in the de-addiction center run by Dr Preet Sahni (Kareena Kapoor), she holds up a mirror to the young policeman’s actions and he realizes the far-reaching effects of his apathy. Alongside this narrative runs that of Tommy Singh (Shahid Kapoor) a hugely popular rock star who is not only a junkie but also glamourizes substance abuse through his songs. His brush with the law is the turning point where his life takes a different path. Now we come to the most poignant character, who is an unnamed migrant worker from Bihar, portrayed brilliantly by Alia Bhatt. Once a hockey player who was in the district team, she’s forced to leave home and work in the fields of Punjab due to extreme financial constraints. While Tommy Singh is a druggie by choice, the young girl is forcibly made a slave to drugs in the most heinous way. It’s chilling to see the complete lack of any humane qualities in people whose single point agenda is to amass wealth. Substance abuse in Punjab is shown through the ebb and flow of the lives of the main characters. The film tries to capture the changes that occur in the main characters as they grapple with the shadows that substance abuse throws on their lives.

Shahid Kapur as Tommy Singh has got all the swag, attitude and witty dialogues, but the petite Alia Bhatt with her haunted eyes lingers in our minds long after Kapur’s voice goes silent. The young actress has been able to perfectly slip into the skin of her character like a chameleon. The helplessness, frustration, anger and emptiness of the naïve girl trapped in the clutches of ruthless drug dealers has been portrayed brilliantly by Alia. Diljith Dosanjh and Kareena Kapoor do justice to their roles but unfortunately their characters are not fleshed out properly. Abhishek Chaubey, the director, has tried to give a holistic view of the issue by covering it in detail from all viewpoints, but in the process the storyline has lost its richness and depth. He had three amazing storylines and it seems that in trying to give equal importance to all of them he has ended up losing the crux of the plot.

I only wish the director could have avoided the exceedingly incredulous flights of fantasy that he has taken, which has detracted so much from its credibility. The cop and the doctor wandering around unhindered in a warehouse where drugs are stored and the rock star cycling nearly a 100 kms while going through withdrawal were some scenes which were ludicrous to say the least. The songs, composed by Amit Trivedi will not stand the test of time and will soon be forgotten. However, one particular song written by the late Punjabi poet Shiv Kumar Batalvi, called Ikk Kudi stands out for the beauty it holds in its simplicity. That moment, where the rock star sings from his heart for the first time without any screaming fans or cameras, is one of the most enduring scenes of the movie.

Udta Punjab doesn’t tell us anything new about substance abuse, but it tries valiantly to provide a cohesive picture of the problem in Punjab. Unfortunately it doesn’t touch too many chords with the viewer and so remains a good attempt rather than a brilliant film.


Ammumma’s Kitchen

Celebrity chefs like Gordon Ramsey and Nigella Lawson and the popular Masterchef series on television, have been successful in turning the humble kitchen into a glamorous setting. There are so many exotic ingredients being used and such a bewildering array of technical terms being bandied around that a dictionary is turning out to be an essential item to navigate our way in the culinary world. Shiny bell peppers, jaunty jalapenos and cheeky cheeses vie for prime position in today’s kitchens. Glossy cookbooks with cuisines from all over the world smile down loftily from kitchen shelves. There are quite a number of gadgets too, which supposedly do everything other than chew your food for you.

In the midst of all this space age machinery, which definitely has made life easier for women, my mind takes a nostalgic trip to my ammumma’s(grandmother) kitchen which easily remains my favourite. It was a cool airy room with just one wooden cupboard and a couple of shelves. The sunlight slanting in through the glass window above the stove gave a magical hue to the smoke rising from the dishes. I loved poking my head inside the cupboard to inhale the unique fragrance of spices and ammumma’s love. The air was redolent with the intoxicating smell of freshly pounded masalas and whatever delectable concoction she would be cooking that day. The most simple of dishes, like the ‘kayu mezhukkupuratti’ (diced raw banana sautéed in oil with a pinch of turmeric and chilly powder added to it) was elevated to a sublime level of deliciousness when she made it. With one edge of her mundu tucked into her waist ammumma bustled around, haggling with the vegetable seller, belting out instructions to the maid and enquiring about my grandfather’s requirements, along with getting a meal ready.

Festival times would see a bevy of aunts joining her in the kitchen to prepare the Sadya (a traditional feast with a number of dishes, served on plantain leaves), and somehow there was space for everybody. With a ladle in her hand, Ammumma directed operations with seemingly effortless ease. She allocated the work and my aunts would take up their stations to get the noon meal ready. My mom still fondly recalls that the payasam (a kind of sweet porridge-like dessert) was her forte. Preparing this involved standing near the uruli (huge vat) and stirring the concoction for a long time. Usually it’s one of the more boring jobs ever, but in ammumma’s kitchen it was the perfect opportunity to catch up on all the news. As I grew older, I preferred to be in that room with them rather than playing with my cousins. It was so comforting to stay tucked in beside an aunt and listen to the ebb and flow of conversations all around. I could see the invisible ribbons of love weaving through the words swirling around, binding everybody together. I think the women in the family looked forward to this time together, when they could shrug aside the roles of wife and mother for a few hours and become just daughters again. Another attraction of the bustling kitchen was getting my hands on the tiny white slivers of fresh coconut and fried golden brown cashewnuts. Ammumma kept a vigilant eye on the latter, and if she found me reaching out too often, it was deftly removed and placed out of reach.

Ammumma had a strict distinction between the kitchen and the storeroom. Other than masala powders, spices and oil, provisions were not kept in the kitchen. Those were the days of getting everything freshly ground in the mill. There were large canisters of rice flour, wheat flour, rice, sugar and other myriad stuff in the store. Snacks, which were invariably made at home, were kept carefully in a quaint little cupboard with glass doors, called the ‘meatsafe’. I went through my childhood calling it a ‘me-safe’, purely because I didn’t know better. It was only years later, when I read about it in books, did I realize that it had a more dignified name! The storeroom was my hideout in the afternoons since I was always shooed away in the mornings. During ammumma’s nap time I would slowly creep inside that cool room. What fascinated me were all the miscellaneous things in the interiors of the cupboards. I had to be very careful while conducting this operation because some of the provisions like pulses and such were kept in small tin containers, which at one time held Nutramul or some such thing. Those infernal things were quite clamorous if I didn’t handle them carefully.

Bits and pieces of coir, broken shells, discarded tins, old brass vessels and crumbling documents which only looked important, were just a few of the odds and ends I found. But my prime target was my uncle’s stamp collection. He had collected hundreds of stamps from all over the world, which he painstakingly stuck on thick black paper in albums, and my favourites were the triangle-shaped ones. Those stamps introduced me to countries like Espania, Latvia and Lithuania. I have such beautiful memories of sitting in that cool shady room and poring over the tiny colourful pieces of paper which took me all around the world.

Today’s kitchen is undoubtedly designed to ease the work of women and I’m so grateful for all the gadgets. But I sometimes feel that my children are missing out on the fun that I’ve had in my ammumma’s kitchen. Maybe as a person who had to do the cooking I wouldn’t have been comfortable in that kitchen without too many conveniences. However as a child and then as a teen, that was the most magical place for me, where I found comfort and an abundance of love.


I love her. I’ve been with her through thick and thin and all the in-between times too. It was love at first sight for her, but not so much for me. In fact I thought she was too quiet and mousy. I did feel a slight thrill when she zeroed in on me, and came right up to where I was. I resolutely looked the other way, trying to find someone more fun and sporty. But she was determined and I just couldn’t ignore the beautiful glow on her face when she looked at me. We ended up together that day.

Initially she preferred to keep her life separate from me. I did my stuff and she went her way. Those were tough days and I really wondered why we moved in together. I was the outdoorsy kind and she liked to spend more time at home. I didn’t even know what she did for a living since she would disappear after a hasty breakfast of toast and coffee. After staying out the whole day, she would drag herself back home and end up curled on the couch with a book for company. Some days I knew she was feeling lonely, since a strange restlessness seemed to come over her. I started taking her for walks. We pounded the streets and went wherever we felt like; through crowded alleys filled with the sounds and colours of life, on beautifully maintained walkways with gently strolling folks, on the beach with its invigorating smell of salt and distant lands, and finally when we returned disheveled and exhausted she would be smiling again.

Gradually I started to know her better. She had the most awful off-key voice but the gusto with which she belted out songs filled our little apartment with happiness. She hated sentimental movies and scared herself senseless watching horror. I saw my little mouse transforming into a tiger while watching action films; cushions went flying during fights on-screen and a manic glint lit up her eyes. She loved her coffee strong and sweet, but not very hot. Mornings were her favourite time of the day and some days we sat in companionable silence on the balcony –she gazing at the morning sunlight filtering through the leaves and me gazing at her. I had fallen in love with this girl who had a quiet strength, an endearing zest for life and who was a genuinely good person. She didn’t have too many friends, but had a wonderful relationship with her parents and siblings. I loved to listen in on her conversations with them, she visibly seemed to become softer and her spirits were always up afterwards.

One night I saw her sitting up late to catch up on some work and only then realized that she was an illustrator for children’s books. Her fingers created magic on paper, a swirl here and a couple of smudges there and I could see a little boy with dust smeared clothes looking wide–eyed at a fantastical creature hovering in the air. She was totally dedicated to her work and conjuring up fantasy on paper was her passion.

After a year of life together, I became aware of an unhappiness within her. By then we had understood each other well and were well versed in reading the contours of our relationship. Her calls to her parents became sporadic and even when they called I could see the forced cheerfulness on her face. We were together quite a lot during those dark days. She was always on the move, and I’ve never walked so much in my life. A bit strenuous for me but I went along to keep her company.

I remember very clearly the day she took that decision. It was raining and quite windy. I thought she would feel worse with the lack of sunshine and the dark clouds. But it was such a pleasure to see a smile flitting on her face. The dark circles under her eyes seemed to have lessened overnight. I could feel the spring in her step. Armed with a huge umbrella, we set out. We came to a huge old house which seemed to be some kind of establishment. She didn’t want me to go in with her and I stayed outside.

I waited impatiently for what seemed like hours, and when I thought that she had abandoned me, I saw her walk out with a bundle of clothes in her arms and the most amazing smile on her face. All her attention was on what she held, and she even forgot me ! When a smattering of raindrops fell on her two things happened at once; she jumped back with a start, becoming aware of her surroundings, and the most aggrieved wail erupted from the bundle. When she turned back to me, I saw her clasping a tiny infant to her heart, as if it was the most fragile and precious thing in the world.

That was the beginning of the rest of our life together. We have been through sleepless nights and stressful days, but the chortles of laughter and sticky kisses made up for that. I’m still with her and I look forward to seeing  the lil one grow up. I can only hope that she doesn’t discard me when she gets a replacement. After all, shoes are really not that hard to get.

(Memoirs of a Shoe)

Pic Courtesy : Rita M. ; Flickr



Pic Courtesy :Margot Trudell; Flickr


white as snow,

smothering, featureless

tasting of things forbidden

a heavy sweetness

masking the hidden bitterness

clinging cloying

filling the mouth with

the tartness of

something that could have been.


A wail cut off mid-way

a shriek of agony

suppressed for too long

the absence of sound

overwhelming and paralyzing

with the smoothness of silk

and the coarseness

of gunny bags

leaving an imprint

on mind and body.

Room of Memories

As another year dawns, it’s not only an opportunity for new beginnings, but also a time to stop for a moment and take stock of what has happened so far. My glance into the past does not involve a stroll down the proverbial memory lane, but it is more like stepping into my memory room. A safe place where all my memories are stored carefully, stacked in polished wooden boxes, some of which have dulled to a soft brown due to the passage of time. In fact the Room of Requirement in Hogwarts Castle (Harry Potter) reminds me of my Room of Memories. It’s always there, but only I have entry to it. Shelves border the room, rising  up to the ceiling, which remains unseen somewhere high above, obscured by the shifting fogs of time. The more recent memories are casually stashed in the lower shelves while the older ones reside above.

Pic COurtesy: Georgios Karamanis; flickr
Pic COurtesy: Georgios Karamanis; flickr

There’s a squishy armchair in a corner of the room, with a lamp throwing a warm glow beside it. The carpet has been worn bare due to my countless visits over the years, hurried ones as well as those where I spend ages just savouring the familiar scents from long forgotten scenes of my life, tinted in sepia and teeming with emotions. In here, the seasons, days and nights are determined by the memories. I have felt the wetness of  rain on my cheeks while it was sweltering hot outside; the winds of childhood summers have run their fingers consolingly over my hair while Sunday evening blues descended on me; I have found solace in the velvety darkness of my grandmother’s room while the sun blazed down mercilessly outside.

I love curling up in my armchair and just looking around at the boxes, each of them an integral part of my life so far. I have flung some boxes into the highest recesses, not wanting to see them at all. But there are certain moments when they come to the forefront of t and then I quickly exit the room. If I happen to delve further into those boxes, a deep pall of gloom settles over me and I’m left with tinges of bitterness swirling in my mind. On the contrary, there are those boxes that come tumbling down without much effort from my part. They lead me on a happy journey, with lots of laughter, the presence of loved ones, amazing conversations, shared meals and a general sense of belonging. I come away from such jaunts feeling relaxed and thoroughly refreshed.

At times while I lounge around in the armchair not looking for any box in particular, flashes of colour or the faint strains of a long-forgotten song draw me to some boxes which have remained unnoticed for a long time. And then it’s such a delight to open it and find so many precious memories that have been stored carefully but which have never been taken out and relished. Many a time, I have started with a box, the contents of which led me to other boxes, peopled with different characters and in different locations. By the time I have to leave, I find myself in an entirely separate landscape from the one where I began.

There’re so many keys which open this room for me – a familiar scent from my childhood like Cinthol soap or Cuticura powder, a particular fish curry which has the absolute same balance of flavours as the one I’ve eaten in my grandmother’s kitchen, a glimpse of a visage I see on the street which has me breathless for a moment because it reminds me of a loved one who is no more – all these and more open the doors of that beautiful room. At times, even without realising it, I find myself in the armchair with the contents of a box spilling onto my lap.

Each of us have our own method of storing those magical moments which have enriched our lives and taught us many a thing about life, both good and the not-so-good lessons. There’re times when I suddenly realise that the people I have left behind in that room are no longer with me. Just as a feeling of sadness rises within, the thought of visiting them in my Room of Memories makes me feel glad again. They have had various reasons to go their separate ways, and there’s no point in brooding over it. Life is a vehicle where we have very little control over the people who travel with us or the distance they accompany us. So enjoy their presence while they are with us and then visit them in our memories when they are no longer by our side.


The Impossible Bucket List

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The memories of childhood have always been a refuge for me in any storm that I faced in life. So many beautiful experiences, all of which have been woven with threads of jewel bright colours and flashes of laughter. A recent conversation made me realize that my Bucket List doesn’t have any bungee jumping or hot air balloon rides in it. Mine would involve going back and experiencing those moments from my childhood again. Those wonderful instances when I felt cherished and the world seemed to be in love with me. Once more I want to relive those tiny parcels of time. Just once more…

  • Once more, I long to inhale the sun-dried fragrance of my Ammumma’s (grandmom) spotless white mundu while snuggling up to her on hot drowsy afternoons.
  • Once more I would love to sit in the shade, while Ammumma spooned out batter for sun-dried ‘vattals’ on to a sheet laid out in the sun. The gummy smell of the batter, ammumma’s conversations and the bright blue of the sky have remained indelibly linked with the pleasures of childhood in my mind.
  • Once more I crave the exhilaration that came from being on a swing, which my cousin brothers used to push so high that I felt like I was flying into the sky.
  • Once more I just want to go back to the old kirana shop near my house and deeply inhale the heady scents of spices, masalas, gunny sacks and agarbattis. I was totally in awe of the owner, who sat perched behind huge sacks of rice and glass bottles which contained sweets and peanut candy. I thought he had the most interesting job in the world, a keeper of a treasure trove.
  • Once more I’d love to lie down on the terrace of my house, looking up at the night sky and dreaming on the stars, while the comforting smell of dinner being prepared wafted up on the air.
  • Once more I wish I could dig into hot fragrant samosas in a gali in Delhi with my only worry being unfinished homework.
  • Once more I feel like reading a novel in class, hidden under my textbook, with the drone of the teacher providing a soporific background score
  • Once more I would love to watch the moon following our car as if it wanted to see us home safe. The quiet murmur of my parents’ voices from the front seats soothed me while the moon comforted me.
  • Once more, I want to sit in my tuition class, staring blankly at the teacher and thinking longingly of the Sunday breakfast which awaited me – hot fluffy appams and fragrant chicken stew.
  • Once more I want to jostle for space with my cousins while getting ready for bed at my uncle’s house, where all of us used to land up for vacations. We had to sleep in the huge hall and since pillows were scarce, we would wait for somebody to fall asleep in order to appropriate their pillow. The jokes and banter, and the sense of belonging we used to get there gives a silken feel to my memories of those days
  • Once more I’d like to go foraging for midnight snacks in my uncle’s house along with my cousin sister, after marathon chat sessions. The memory of waking up my poor aunt from a deep sleep just to find out the location of the halwa still brings a smile to my face. The most beautiful part of this memory is how unperturbed my aunt was to see two apparitions quizzing her about food in the dead of night.
  • Once more I crave the hot coffee that amma would make for me while I sat up at night to study. The dollops of love in it might have been the reason it smelled and tasted so divine. Many a time, that has been the only reason that made me stay awake  🙂
  • Once more I wish to endure the agony of the last day of exams in school, just to experience the ecstasy of giving back the answer paper and rushing out of class, while soaking in the blissful feeling that the holidays had started.
  • Once more I’d like to curl up by the window in my room, watching the rains caress the glossy leaves while I wove dreams about the future.
  • Once more I want to feel the satisfaction of having played a great game while sweatily standing around with friends and gulping in huge lungfuls of air, after we played basketball.
  • Once more I’d like to see the twinkle in my Appuppan’s (grandfather) eyes as he regaled us with stories of two children who at that time I thought were gluttons, but now seem more like passionate foodies !
  • Once more I wish to overdose on Bollywood and home cooked food while chilling out at a friend’s house, supposedly for combined study sessions !
  • Once more I yearn to sit with my Achan on our verandah, exchanging comments on the news while we drank our morning coffee and read the newspaper, or watched the evening sun gild the leaves a mellow gold, sharing a comfortable silence, lost in our own thoughts. Just being with him was the best feeling.


Romancing the Train

Faster than fairies, faster than witches  ;  Bridges and houses, hedges and ditches “

 Each time I travel by train, I hear an echo of these words of R L Stevenson in the clackety clack of the wheels. The beauty and magic of watching the countryside hurtle past in brilliant flashes of colour is so correctly depicted in his poem. I’m a huge fan of train travel though unfortunately the frequency of my travels has come down a lot. I realized that my love affair with trains remained as passionate as ever when I travelled from my home town to Kochi, recently. The journey was a short one of 4 hours. But it was more than enough to get reacquainted with an old love. I was in train-heaven since I had managed to get the window seat. As a child, this was the most coveted seat and a lot of wrangling and bargaining was usually involved before it could be attained. Many a time I had to surrender it to my brother in spite of falling back on my last resort – tears. So this time when I got the window seat without having to kill anybody for it, I felt terribly happy. Even though I kept a very benign expression on my face, inside me was an ecstatic little girl doing a mad jig. When I look out through the glassed window, I’m taken back for a moment to my childhood when the trains ran on coal. There were no air-conditioned compartments and getting flecks of coal dust in the eyes was a part of travel.

I have my own ritual when I settle down in my seat; in fact I’ve seen many travellers with their own particular rituals of settling down. I always have a bottle of water and a couple of books with me. After pushing the bottle into its holder, and stowing my bigger bag overhead, I take out a book and settle down. Anybody glancing my way would be forgiven if they thought that I was getting ready for a long reading session. But the truth is that I hardly read, maybe a couple of pages at the most. The scenery outside has me in its grasp, and tearing myself away from that turns out to be an impossible task.

It was a somnolent lazy afternoon and it was a pleasure to lean back in my seat and surrender to the beauty of the countryside. I felt like I was watching a series of short movies because each scene came with its own mood and story. Railway lines usually pass behind houses, and the backyards give a more fascinating view of life than courtyards. The debris of life is collected in backyards and so many interesting facets of life are revealed in these bits and pieces. Abandoned tricycles give an indication of a child who has left his carefree years behind and stepped beyond the confines of his mother’s arms. Clothes merrily flapping on clothes-lines have me constructing elaborate pictures of the entire family in my mind, complete with visiting cousins and relatives.

Since it was a Sunday afternoon, the pace was more relaxed. Children were sitting around with cousins or friends, desultorily swapping stories or playing quiet games. Women could be seen relaxing after the hectic activities of the morning; older women with legs stretched out and younger ones grouped around, with laughter lighting up their faces and weariness reflecting in the droop of shoulders. At some houses, the husband and wife would be sitting on the steps unconscionably leaning into each other and sharing a few words, or sometimes just enjoying a quiet moment together. A glimpse of the scene is all I need to give free rein to my fertile imagination and before I know it we have reached the next station.

Pic Courtesy:Dixie Lawrence; Flickr
Pic Courtesy:Dixie Lawrence; Flickr

The importance of each railway station in the overall hierarchy is reflected in their appearance. I’m not a big fan of the busy stations with teeming humanity, blaring announcements, abundance of tiny kiosks and mountains of luggage stacked around. My favourites are the tiny stations that often have just two platforms, and where many of the trains do not halt. It’s in these tiny out-of-the-way stations that Nature makes its presence felt, with beautiful shady trees left untouched, flowers growing in riotous joy clambering over fences seemingly eager to hold conversations with the speeding trains, and wild greenery crowding around the platforms as if they too want to go on a journey.

Pic Courtesy: ~Zipporah~ ; Flickr
Pic Courtesy: ~Zipporah~ ; Flickr

Kerala is a riot of green at all times and amidst this when I see flashes of colour it immediately catches my eye. A little hen-coop is transported out of the ordinary by the bright blue tarpaulin stretched across its roof. A sunshine yellow tractor merrily chugging along in a field calls out to me. The most catchy image is that of a pink bus parked in the middle of a tiny bridge with passengers standing outside chatting comfortably. The overcast sky adds to the surreal nature of this scene. I would have loved to find out why the bus was parked in the middle of the bridge and why the passengers were not in a hurry.

But trains do not allow me to linger at one place. They take me onwards, to the next scene, the next story, and the next slice of life. I pass a small temple with a cleanly swept yard and no signs of life, and then a sparkling white mosque. Both waiting patiently to welcome believers, and dispense peace and relief to burdened minds and troubled souls. I’m also fascinated by the small unpaved roads, which abound in the countryside. They look very beguiling, with the richness of the brown earth in sharp contrast to the green around, gnarled roots poking out from the embankments on both sides, and an air of expectancy in the air. The roads that disappear around a bend are the most interesting, since I can have my choice of characters waiting beyond the bend. The destination remains a mystery, which only adds to their charm.

Just like the people I see along the way, the trees too have distinct characters. There are giant trees waiting motionless and with bated breath for the rains to fall from the overcast sky. Others tower near the railway tracks, with bended branches peeking inquisitively towards the trains, trying to figure out what happens inside the rectangles of light which rush past them all the time. Some of these denizens of the forest have the most amazing flowers and one that had flowers hanging downwards like pale feathery chandeliers enthralled me. They looked like fantastic props made by some eccentric designer.

Very soon it was time for me to leave this wondrous world of possibilities and discovery and get back to my life. It’s always a pleasure to get back home after a journey, but this time there’s a slight pang because I don’t know when I’ll be back on a train again. As we pulled into my station, I was swept along by the rush of people eager to reach their destinations. I seemed to be the only one looking at the dusty train with any signs of regret, but I’m sure there are many like me out there somewhere who hanker after the simple joys of train travel.





In a Dusty Heaven

It turned out to be the best thing I’d done in recent times. On a spur of the moment decision I’d joined the Ernakulam Public Library (EPL). Of late I’ve been smothered by a feeling of deep inertia, actually less inertia and more of being unproductive. I was spending more time finding out what the world was doing rather than doing something myself and I had nobody else to blame for this. The final straw was when I realized with mounting horror that my reading and writing were taking a backseat to my sojourns into social media. Authors I followed on Twitter were tweeting while they were relaxing on their breaks after publishing mammoth tomes and here I was, frantically trying to keep up with all that was being spewed out and trying to pen a few words in between. Ironically the same social media provided a way out when I saw the page of the Ernakulam Public Library on Facebook ! Seeing it as a chance given by the Gods, I didn’t think twice and enrolled.

It has been an amazing experience. The EPL is not a state of the art library with either the latest software or snazzy premises, but I feel a deep sense of belonging there. The librarians are taciturn but surprisingly helpful. After completing the formalities, to my utter delight I was issued two old-style library cards. Not a sign of plastic on them, just two chunky cardboard cards. I almost broke into a tiny dance, such was my happiness! But the thought of giving the unfortunate librarian a coronary kept my inner wild-child in check.

The books were waiting for me. Oh! I’ve never been so happy to see dust. There was quite a lot of it, but it had taken residence on such great books that it was forgivable. It was a total mind shift for me and I felt I was back in college. The biggest advantage was that there was very little pulp fiction. I have nothing against this genre and in fact I’m a huge fan. But I have a tendency to veer towards these and in the process I end up ignoring some amazing writers. Michael Ondaatje is one such person who has suffered my disinterest. I’ve wanted to read his words but there’s always been something more adrenaline pumping which has distracted me. In this library, Ondaatje got the better of me and I borrowed a beautiful work of his called ‘Anil’s Ghost’. Along with Ondaatje, I got a copy of Nandita Puri’s short stories. There were some absolute gems residing on those tall wooden shelves; I was particularly entranced by old copies of the condensed versions of novels that Reader’s Digest used to bring out. Thick hardbound books with satin-smooth yellowed pages and the most beautiful fonts. However I’m one of those people who keeps the best part of the meal for last, so I’ve decided to keep salivating over them and prolong the anticipation as much as I can 🙂

Pic COurtesy:Charles Hackney ; flickr
Pic COurtesy:Charles Hackney ; flickr

After completing the enjoyable process of borrowing books, I ventured into the Reference section, which was on another floor of the building. For a moment I thought I’d travelled back in time, such was the sense of nostalgia that swamped me when I entered. The room looked exactly like the ones I’ve seen in the University library in my college days. A long wooden table took pride of place with faded red plastic chairs around it. The shelves were overflowing with books with a liberal amount of dust on them. I thanked all my guardian angels for not making me allergic to dust or else I would certainly have sneezed my nose off ! The electrical switches were older than me.

I was quite the eager beaver and went zooming off to investigate the lovely treasure. There were several bespectacled youngsters sprinkled around the table, with their heads buried in highly technical sounding tomes who looked like they had the weight of the universe on their fragile shoulders. They made me feel quite guilty about having a huge smile on my face. But the sense of being surrounded by millions of words from so many great authors was quite intoxicating.

T.S Eliot has never been a friend of mine. I prefer to think of authors whose works I enjoy as my friends and Mr. Eliot has always been slightly too serious for me. But when I saw a huge book nestling on the shelf containing a collection of his letters, my curiosity was aroused. So I tottered to the table with Mr.Eliot for company and I didn’t lift my head from the book for the next hour. When I surfaced for air most of the students had vanished. I tried to slide back into the book, but a combination of the peaceful atmosphere, the quiet murmur of the librarian answering queries and the gentle hum of the antiquated ceiling fan saw my eyes drooping. I valiantly tried to keep them open but I realized it was a losing battle when I went cross-eyed due to my efforts.

I bid adieu to that oasis, with a promise that I would be back soon. It had been quite liberating to be in a place without any distractions or intrusions and where I felt the silent approbation of so many gifted voices. I’ve always been a huge fan of libraries and book shops but there’s something about the Ernakulam Public Library which has made it my firm favourite.

From Pebbles to Notebooks – A Magpie’s Soul

I wistfully ran my hand over the beautiful cover of the notebook in my hand and then with a deep soulful sigh kept it back on the shelf in Crossword. I managed to convince myself that I certainly didn’t need to add one more notebook to my already teetering pile ; I might have felt like my toenails were being pulled out when I kept the book back, but it was a silly extravagance and it was time I controlled my lust for them. When I slinked out of the shop half an hour later, the notebook was nestling snugly next to the book I had bought for my daughter. I had given in, yet again.

I’ve realised that I’m a hoarder, or should I call myself a collector ? The word Hoarder brings to mind a goon wearing a stained vest in a dingy godown lit only by a single dangling bulb with sacks of rice and sugar piled in a corner. Ok, I’ll go with collector since wearing stained clothes is a big no-no. Godowns and sacks are fine but one has to draw the line somewhere and for me that is sweat-stained clothes ! I do feel like a fraud when I call myself a collector because such individuals are serious and dignified and not even in my wildest flights of fancy can I claim to be either of the two. Anyway, semantics apart, my collecting/hoarding tendencies are rooted in my past, in my childhood to be precise. Let’s take a quick trip down that good old memory lane, when I was running around like a wild child, complete with scabbed knees, missing teeth and wonky pigtails. How many years ago, asks the reader who wants specifics. Why go into inconsequential numerical details dear friend, let’s just say that it was a couple of decades back. I had the characteristics of an enthusiastic magpie. If you cast your mind on that mischievous denizen of the avian fraternity, you’ll remember what your teacher taught you in school. The magpie is said to be a prolific hoarder.

The bird was attracted to anything that glittered, but I had no such constraints – anything small and considered uninteresting by the general populace was of utmost interest to little pig-tailed me. Pebbles worn smooth over the years which reminded me of clouds; scraps of brilliantly coloured cloth which I used to filch from the tailor; transparent wrappers of boiled candy that I would wrap tightly round my fingertips to see the whorls more clearly ; misshapen pieces of chalk in different colours which always left a dusting of coloured dreams on my hands ; pencil stubs which reminded me of tiny men in top-hats ; soft feathers in pale shades of blue, yellow and rust that I got from my grand-mom’s neighbour who had pet love-birds ; cloth covered buttons; broken pieces of jewel-hued glass bangles ; all these and more were my prized possessions, stored carefully in a colourful round biscuit tin.

As I left the magical, whacky world of childhood behind and entered the angst ridden world of adolescence, my collector’s soul too underwent a transformation. Out went all the colourful baubles and fancy stuff. My teenage mind found solace and a perfect reflection of my feelings in the words of songs, and that too Hindi film songs. My efforts were now tuned to collecting the lyrics of as many songs as I could. I’ve painstakingly collected the lyrics, including the information about the makers of the songs, the actors who acted in them, and then recorded every tiny detail in notebooks. The pictures of the actors were carefully cut out of magazines and pasted along with the songs. Since Google was not even a thought in the minds of its makers, my main sources were the radio stations and in those days All India Radio and Vividh Bharati were the only two around. So getting accurate lyrics was a tortuous, laborious affair. Now when I look back, I’m astounded that between my obsessive song writing and compulsive reading, I managed to complete my education without my parents suffering nervous breakdowns !

Over time, songs were replaced by pithy sayings and interesting quotes. The Reader’s Digest magazine played an important role in this phase of mine since that was my principal source. I’ve a distinct memory of myself bent over a beautiful moss-green diary (which I still have with me), copying quotations from RD. The sky was overcast and the rain beat down gently while I was ensconced in my room lost in a world of words. I carry around that image with me and try to slip back into the serenity of that moment whenever I feel overwhelmed by life. IMG_2416 Sadly I’ve almost bid adieu to my collecting days. Work and later motherhood saw me hurtling down uncharted terrain trying desperately to hang on to my sanity. There was never enough time or the mental space required for my inner magpie to manifest itself. But I’ve managed to hold on to my love of notebooks. I love them in any shape, size or colour. Earlier I used to feel guilty about buying new ones when I hadn’t used the earlier ones. I’m still attacked by guilt but like I mentioned in the beginning, I’ve learnt to successfully silence this tiresome, nagging inner voice and move on happily. I think it’s the possibility of spilling out words onto the fresh pages which fills me with a deep satisfaction. And as long as I love words I don’t think I’ll give up on this one.

A Touch of Nostalgia, A Pause in Time

We move at a fast pace in our daily lives, juggling various roles and always in a rush to reach somewhere or meet someone. In the midst of all these duties and responsibilities, there are some instances when we get a chance to take a step back and cast a glance at the path we’ve trodden to reach where we are, and the people who have travelled with us, some still accompanying us on our journey and others who have bid adieu. One such occasion when I slow down the pace of my life, is the annual puja at my father’s family temple, set in the tiny village of Chennankary in Alleppey,Kerala. The small temple dedicated to the Devi is set in a shady clearing adjoining the ancestral home. It’s literally like moving into another world since Chennankary is accessible only by boat. There’s no question of stepping in, making your presence felt and rushing back to work or wherever you are in a hurry to get to. In fact the word ‘hurry’ is alien to the people of Chennankary. The rituals of the puja start in the morning and culminate at noon. All the family members assemble at a pre-ordained dock near Alleppey and travel together by boat. Our family is quite huge with people in all corners of the globe. Each year, all those who can, make it a point to attend. Usually there’re around 30 to 40 family members who come every year. I’ve noticed a certain lightness of heart and spirit in every person who comes to attend the puja. It’s like all of us are taking a break from our daily routines, shedding the personas we’ve carefully cultivated over the years and trying to grasp fleeting moments from our pasts. IMG_1105 The boat invariably gets delayed although the booking would have been done days before. But I’ve yet to see anybody get worked up over this. We use the opportunity to unwind and catch up with each other’s exploits. The kids run free, away from the restrictions of concrete jungles and taking complete advantage of parents who are lost in nostalgia. At last the boat is sighted, slowly chugging in, and there’s a general scramble for children, handbags and other paraphernalia, and not necessarily in that order! The vessel is a small one that just about manages to hold all of us. The journey to our ancestral home takes around three-quarters of an hour. The male cousins and kids prefer to be outside the cabin which is taken over by the ladies, of all ages, ranging from the tiniest baby to my elderly aunt who is the matriarch right now. A few old uncles find themselves stuck with us and hardly a peep is heard out of them throughout the journey. The poor souls are not given a chance as the ladies completely monopolise the conversation. The topics are wide and varied ranging from the recipe for Brinjal Avial to critiques of Kathakali performances, to the reasons for hair loss; all this punctuated at regular intervals by gales of laughter. I’ve got aunts who are brilliant raconteurs and their wry wit is so hilarious that it keeps us in splits. If the cousins or I happen to reprimand our children, the aunts firmly put us in our places by recounting with great relish how much naughtier we were and the shenanigans we got up to. The only defence we have against this is to hide behind sheepish grins. The scenery outside is some of the most beautiful in Kerala but there’s so much happening inside that I hardly notice any of it. IMG_1137 We navigate our way through narrow waterways and reach our destination right in time for breakfast. The aunts and uncles staying there arrange a simple yet delicious spread. It’s at this juncture that I lose complete contact with my children. This happens to all my cousins. We turn into children again while our kids find their cousins and gang up with them. They know it’s pointless to look to their parents for any kind of guidance or directions because we are too busy catching up with the rest of the family. Our children actually enjoy this freedom from our tyranny and I don’t find any complaints. As parents we are also aware that somebody is always looking out for the safety and comfort of the children. Whichever adult happens to be near them keeps an eye on them. IMG_2155   Our small temple is situated just a few steps from the main house, in a clearing enclosed by huge towering trees and trailing creepers. Sunlight pours in from above and creates a cosy tranquil atmosphere. There’s one particular tree, which has become an abode for bats and they hang motionless like tattered prayer flags. Since we have many elderly members, a small number of chairs are placed under an awning to one side so that they can take a breather in between the lengthy ceremonies. Though meant for the older generation, I find that it’s more of my generation who settle down comfortably on them ! It’s either the chairs or the platform around the majestic banyan tree that find people sitting and catching up on each others lives.

Over the years we have suffered many bereavements and many loved ones have left us, including my father. I feel their presence in that clearing, in the caress of the breeze, in the warmth of the sunlight and in the memories that we all share when we are together. A laugh here, a toss of the head there, a familiar stance, all brings them back to me. Whatever else might happen in my life, I know that for those couple of hours my father is right there beside me, sending his blessings my way. Our deity is the Devi or goddess, and a most benevolent one at that. There’s a pervading sense of goodness, of divinity and well-being around the temple. When the sound of the conch being blown combines with the hum of murmured prayers, and the faint rustling of the wind among the leaves, the vibrations resonate in my heart and lighten the spirit. The final moments sees a flurry of activity mainly because the kids have to be brought from whichever corner they have escaped to. Kids are such an integral part of the occasion because they add that much-needed touch of reality. Once, a cousin’s 5-year-old daughter was found to be lost in prayers, muttering feverishly under her breath. All of us were quite amazed at her devotion at such a young age. It was only later that a cousin’s wife standing next to the tot informed us that the lil one was reciting the words of the latest film song! After the customary sadya (feast) and a family meeting (both of which I can write reams about) we start back.

The return journey is quieter, due to physical tiredness and also the sense that our brief sojourn into another world is over. The conversations are quieter but the laughter is as spirited as ever. One of my favourite activities is to sit back and lazily watch the tapestry of life unfolding on the riverbanks, while the conversation flows all around me cocooning me in its warmth and familiarity. There’re no prolonged goodbyes even though we might not meet some of them for a long time. Everything that had to be said and shared has already been done and tarrying would only delay everybody. We take leave of each other with smiles since we know that we would surely meet again, in our Devi’s presence, secure in the bond that binds us together.

I Salute Thee, Oh Bollywood Dancer !

I had a healthy disdain for the dances seen in Bollywood movies and I must admit that there has been a certain amount of snootiness in the equation. What were these ladies doing jumping around like this, doing seemingly bizarre moves ? Living in the world of Classical Dance, I just couldn’t stomach the antics of the dancers. I always took care to steer clear of such dances. Now I realise that there’s a God up there who decided to point my upturned nose in a downward direction. Due to certain health issues, I had to stop my Classical dance classes and since I love dance it was quite heart wrenching. So when I got the opportunity to join  a Bollywood dance class along with friends, I jumped at the chance. Not for a moment did I give a thought to whether I could do it well. After all I’d learned Classical, and in my enlightened mind that was the ultimate dance form. If I could do Classical, I could do anything !

Pic COurtesy: chooyutshing; flickr
Pic COurtesy: chooyutshing; flickr

So there I was in my very first Bollywood dance class, raring to go and show them my moves. We were a small group of friends who wanted to do some physical activity which was not boring and tedious. The instructor was a bespectacled, quiet young guy who welcomed us with a smile and made us feel quite comfortable. The music was switched on, the heavy beat of a song filled the air and the instructor gave a short demo of what he was gonna teach us. The guy moved  beautifully and the whole thing looked ridiculously easy. Our instructor who I shall call D, stopped the music  to show us the steps. It took quite some time for me to learn the very different  movements. Again the music was switched on and we started moving. That was when I had the first inkling that all was not as it seemed. The song had a life of its own and the damn thing was not waiting for me to complete my moves ! For a couple of minutes I was only throwing my hands and feet around, since the minute I started a step the song would have proceeded, calling for the next step. By the time D stopped the song I was in a total huff. My hair was sticking out at odd angles and I felt like I would have a heart attack. D was as cool as a cucumber and not even breathing heavily. I looked around and felt a teeny amount of satisfaction when I saw the rest of my friends looking as shell-shocked as I felt. The absolute shocker was that we had only done a couple of steps; I thought we had completed one whole routine judging by my breathlessness and the time that seemed to have elapsed.

D assessed the situation and  decided to  ‘make it simpler’ for us, and I must tell you that as of the moment I’m writing this, the poor guy has perfected the art of breaking a step into the tiniest bit possible. He took a lot of time to teach us the first few steps and hats off to his immense patience in the face of this kind of adversity ! To give you a tiny example; while demonstrating a step, D would extend his right hand and most of us would promptly extend our left hand and wait expectantly, not even realising that we’d got it wrong. After some time when he felt that we could hold our own, the music was switched on and he started. Again there was a flurry of hands and legs going in all directions as we struggled  to remember the sequence and keep up with the song. I had decided that this time I would keep my cool and do it perfectly. Alas, my body and mind went on two different paths; the agile mind sped on keeping time with the song, while the poor weary body lumbered along trying to keep flailing hands and feet from hitting anybody and trying to retain some semblance of dance in the movements.  Any observer would surely have died of laughter to see a bunch of ladies throwing themselves around with looks of intense concentration along with a good amount of desperation on their faces.

The end of the first class had me thinking that I would die of exhaustion. I had to literally crawl back from class since I found it impossible to lift my feet and I discovered long abandoned muscles under all the fat ! My muscles went on strike and I found that the only body parts I could move without pain were my eyes and my fingers. For the next two days my family were subjected to howls of agony each time I moved. But you know how it is when we start something new. There’s a certain amount of unbridled enthusiasm which blinds us to many other factors. My physical discomfort made me forget one important thing, that I was not able to learn the steps as easily as I had thought initially.

The second class saw us back in the dance studio with a lot of enthusiasm and I remember we even had a good laugh over our aches and pains. D welcomed us back and efficiently moved on to the routine we had to practise. Now I must come to the villain of this story which is a huge mirror which completely covered one wall. I am led to believe that any self-respecting dance studio has to have one. Anyway, the mirror in our class is a particularly unflattering one and I have come to hate it with a passion. I’m convinced that mirrors are the creation of the devil to show us our non-existent faults and certain non-existent bumps and curves in our body !In the first class I was too busy trying to keep up with the music and D,  that I didn’t notice the damaging effects of the mirror. During the second class I was confident that I was shaking my hips and doing the moves and generally showing a lot of improvement. As the class progressed, in the gap between my friends who were standing in front of me, I caught a glimpse of a round figure wobbling on her feet and swaying gently with minimal movement of the body. I sympathised with her for a second, and thought how hard it must be for the poor thing to manage all these moves. I resolved to help her out once I completed my dazzling jhatkas and matkas (that’s Bollywood lingo for moves and grooves). Suddenly I almost keeled over in shock when I realised that the swaying blimp was none other than me ! Where were my hips ? In my mind they were moving in an east to north-west direction ? In the mirror I was still swaying, solidly staying on an east-west path and that too only by the barest minimum movement. I tried moving my torso in different combinations of directions, but other than my eye balls which were rolling around alarmingly the body swayed gently, like a content coconut tree. That was the beginning of my efforts to hide from the dastardly mirror. I might be slightly chubby and slow but the mirror made me look big and ungainly which just was not acceptable. Now I have a feeling that I’m concentrating more on playing hide and seek with the blasted mirror than in learning the moves.
We have completed two months and D has touched new levels of patience. He has also learned that keeping things simple is good for his health and sanity. It would be unfair to say that we haven’t improved. I have certainly picked up the rudimentaries of Bollywood dancing. Some of the group have become really good dancers while some of us are still trying. Our stamina has increased. Now we no longer feel as if we are dying after each class. We just cannot move our limbs. We have learnt that  propping ourselves up on walls will make the feeling go away after a considerable amount of time. Mr.A has got used to seeing me practise my moves in the most unlikeliest of places; while making coffee, in the middle of reading a book, while watching tv and once even in the middle of reading the newspaper. I have a new-found respect for Bollywood dances and dancers and I do not let anybody make fun of Bollywood dancing in my presence.
Dear Bollywood dancer, I salute you ! You really are a force to reckon with 🙂

Colours of My Life

Different colours have different connotations in our lives. There’re some widely accepted images which we automatically associate with certain colours due to popular perception. White brings to mind doves and peace, while red is synonymous with passion. Green is the environment, while blue is the wonderful colour of the seas. But each of us has a separate colour-bar in our minds which has been created by a beautiful blend of our memories and experiences; pictures which have loved ones and cherished moments bound together with the silken thread of nostalgia.

Pic Courtesy :Salonee Pareek;Flickr
Pic Courtesy :Salonee Pareek;Flickr

The colour White to me is synonymous with the spotless white of my grandmother’s clothes. She wore the traditional Malayali attire of set-mundu. Her mornings were spent in the kitchen and generally doing chores. One corner of the mundu was neatly tucked back onto the waist so that she could bustle around. Once all the chores were completed she would bathe and sit down with the newspaper to catch up on the news. Her spotless white mundu with the faint smell of sunshine lingering in it never failed to bring a surge of happiness within me. I loved snuggling up to her just to inhale the freshness of the sun and contentment.

Gold to me has never been about the yellow metal. Gold is the colour of the summers of childhood. All my memories of childhood have a lovely lustre to it. Happiness, laughter, love, food, cousins, music – all form a melange of pictures which never fade. I might forget where I’ve kept my car keys but I can never forget the intricate details of those golden images. No matter how often I take them out to savour, those memories remain as clear as ever.

Green is the coolness of leaves which have soothed my mind ever so often. The falling leaves which have mesmerised me and taken my mind on so many journeys while I was supposed to be studying. The canopy of leaves in my college courtyard which have been witness to the madness and craziness which made those days spend with friends so precious. The neem leaves outside the window of our apartment which allowed squirrels to come and play peekaboo with my daughter when she was a baby. The gentle palm fronds outside my balcony which have on many an occasion provided a balm for my troubled mind.

Purple may bring to mind an image of glossy jamuns, but my mind conjures up a different image for Purple. My favourite dress when I was around 5 or 6 was a rich purple with white stripes. I have no idea why this particular dress has remained fresh in my memory while so many others have been consigned to be forgotten. It might be because I wore the purple frock for the house-warming of our house or because it represents an amazing childhood.

Black as night is just a saying. My Black is a happy Black. Black is the colour of spectacles. Both my grandfather( Appuppan) and father (Achan) had spectacles with thick black frames. I cannot think of the colour Black without being reminded of the kindest eyes I’ve known in my life. Appuppan was one of the gentlest souls I’ve ever encountered. My brother and I were his first grandchildren and we got to spend a lot of time with him. Appuppan’s wisdom, subtle humour and his kindness have been such an integral part of my growing up years. My Achan had the warmest brown eyes, which have guided me, reprimanded me and provided strength when I’ve felt defeated. The unconditional love I’ve seen in those eyes is something that I search for even today.

Brown stands for benches and desks. The countless wooden benches I’ve sat on, in schools, colleges and tuition classes. Rich glossy brown of new desks before they were marked by innumerable pens and compasses. The smudged brown of old desks covered by illustrations which provided interesting insights on every topic from teachers to world politics to the nicknames of students.

Blue to me is the colour of stories. The Blue of Krishna, Vishnu, Shiva, Draupadi and Rama in Amar Chitra Katha comics. Such a vivid blue which had undertones of goodness, nobility, strength and courage to it.

Yellow is the bright colour of crisp banana chips ; the round bites of deliciousness which has remained unchanged in form and taste. When banana chips are fried at home, the mouth-watering smell of hot oil and fresh chips pervaded the entire house.

Silver cannot be anything but the glistening colour of fresh fish in the baskets of fishermen in the local market.

Strangely, there’re some colours which are completely missing from my personal spectrum. The colour Red doesn’t have any significant memories attached to it. So is the case with Grey and Pink. Not that I mind, since my Greens and Golds and the rest of the colour bombs keep me happy and content; the colours of people and memories too precious to be forgotten any time soon.

The Loss of Childhood and A New Beginning

When I attended a talk by Pedro Medina, the former head of McDonalds in Columbia, little did I think that the highlight of the evening would be meeting Cristelle Hart Singh. While mingling after the session, held in quaint David Hall, I got talking to a lady who was clearly not an Indian. My first thought was that she must be a tourist and as with all tourists, my first question to her was,’How long have you been here ?’. All my pre-conceived notions came tumbling down when she quietly told me with a twinkle in her eye, that she’d been in Kochi for the past 14 yrs. That’s a longer time than I myself have been here, was my immediate thought. Now I was really interested. The rest of the evening was an eye opener for me as well as my friends. We found out that Cristelle has been running a home for pregnant teenagers and teenage mothers called Tejus Home. A very friendly person, she talked in quite a matter of fact way about the work that she was doing. I was stunned because here was a person who was doing so much with her life, who was making an enormous amount of difference in peoples lives and yet who was so  unassuming about the whole thing. In an age where every small action is projected disproportionately, Cristelle talked about her work only after much prodding from us. In fact she said that she found it difficult to speak eloquently in front of people. She was already involved with DIL SE, an NGO she started with a friend, which among other activities runs a foster home for orphans and children from very poor families.

Tejus Home was formed in answer to a call for help from one of the children who had been a part of DIL SE. Gayatri was left at DIL SE by her rag picker parents when she was a small child. After a couple of years when they took her back she  was 13 yrs old and at that young age they got her married.  Immediately she became pregnant, but the physical and mental abuse continued. One day she took matters into her own hands and ran away. Picked up by authorities from the railway station, the only person she wanted to contact was Cristelle. By that time Dil Se had been converted into a home exclusively for boys and so there was no place to bring Gayatri. The Child Welfare Committee had to send her to a home for destitute women since there weren’t any homes for pregnant teenagers. Gayatri gave birth to a healthy baby boy in 2012, called Tejus. Tejus Home is named after this little bundle and it started functioning in November 2012. 1503222_581103721989543_5805614599942440991_n   Teenagers themselves are at a very sensitive stage of life, so a pregnant teenager has special and specific needs which has to be handled with a lot of care. It’s a natural conclusion that teenagers do not get pregnant by choice. Most of them are victims of abuse and the perpetrator is usually a family member or somebody whom she trusted. So, with pregnant teenagers, a whole lot of specific issues have to be addressed –  professional guidance on how to cope with such a trauma; counselling to help them heal and look forward in life; advice on how to cope with the enormous changes happening in their bodies; knowledge of and help with the legal issues involved and also love and affection during this troubled phase of their lives. All this is what Cristelle provides at Tejus Home. 1374346_577776425655606_583306057536158644_n     Birth for Change another NGO propagating safe and natural  birthing practices has partnered with Tejus Home and they take care of all the pre-natal and post-natal care and also the actual delivery of the babies. The girls have the right to take their decision regarding the future, whether they want to keep the baby or give him/her up for adoption. They are supported wholeheartedly, no matter what their decision.

I visited Tejus Home on a sunny morning and it was with a heavy heart that I went, knowing that I would be meeting children who were going to be mothers. I expected a silent, sad atmosphere with sombre faces and an atmosphere of despair. Yet again Cristelle caught me on the wrong foot. Tejus Home is situated in a cosy house tucked into a tiny bylane off a quiet road. I was enveloped by the warmth and positiveness in that house when I walked into an airy room with a lot of light. Four girls were sitting around a makeshift table learning to make cloth dolls under the loving tutelage of Anna, a retired nurse and currently a volunteer at Tejus. They greeted me with smiles and went back to their dolls. The fragrance of the noon meal being prepared wafted out of the kitchen where a smiling cook was busy with preparations. I also met Tara, the dedicated social worker who is employed by Tejus to help the girls cope with their emotional issues. The girls’ artwork was displayed on the walls which added to the feeling of colour and life in that room. During all my conversations with Cristelle, what struck me was her uncompromising stance on the welfare of the girls. There is no cost cutting when it comes to their well being. That does not mean that they were living in luxury, but that their emotional and physical needs were given priority above all else. Other than the cook who is is present the whole day and who also cares for any babies in the house,there’s another carer who stays the night and looks after the comfort and care of the girls. Cristelle spends an enormous amount of time trying to raise funds for meeting the monthly requirements of her girls. Currently there are 9 girls staying at Tejus Home, some of them below the age of 15. 60628_581103818656200_1256069458176358948_n I spend a couple of hours at Tejus Home. The girls were in a secure, peaceful place where they were treated as survivors rather than as helpless victims. Rather than smothering them with sympathy, they are encouraged to look forward and build a life. They are helped to handle their emotional issues by a certified counsellor who visits regularly. The girls are also encouraged to continue their studies.  Its not easy to manage pregnant teenagers, but with determination and love, Cristelle has created a safe haven for them. As she mentions in her blog,”A child-mother needs coaching on how to manage her own life, let alone two; she needs professional advice to help her heal from her traumatising experiences; she needs education, life skills and help to become a good mother; she needs physical, mental, emotional and financial support. She needs a hug now and again. She needs a little bit of love.”  

Tejus Home‘s administrative office is currently functioning from Cristelle’s house. Her future plans include having a proper centre, which would house the  office, as well as a section which offers support and counselling for children subject to Sexual Abuse. Along with psychological support, she also wants to provide help with legal aspects like filing a police report and other such formalities. She plans to have a full- fledged social worker who will spearhead a campaign in schools to spread awareness for prevention of Child Sexual Abuse. I came away from Tejus Home with a mind strangely at peace. The loss of childhood of these children was heartbreaking but there was a definite sense of hope that with the support of Tejus Home, they could rebuild their fractured lives and dream of a better tomorrow. Tejus Home’s requirements are many and any assistance is appreciated by them.

For those of you who would like to help, the details are as follows : Financial support can be send to DIL SE, ICICI Bank Ltd. A/c number : 001005009735 

For any other kind of support that you would like to do, please contact Cristelle at +91 98-95-031123

She Entices and Enchants – Kerala !

She’s a temptress, confident in her beauty, beguiling the unwary traveller. She’s sensual and mysterious, whispering about adventure, and secrets waiting to be unlocked. She’s playful. She’s a seductress. She’s my Kerala, drenched in rains and revelling in gay abandon.


Pic Courtesy :Jakub Michankow;flickr
Pic Courtesy :Jakub Michankow;flickr

Kerala is my home state, yet during the monsoon she leaves me breathless with her beauty. Dear traveller, don’t linger among the dust and chaos of the cities or big towns, venture further into the land. Into the villages and small lil towns where each bend in the road opens new vistas. Swollen rivers gush through the verdant greenery, pausing only to dally with the sloping branch of a tree or a defiant rock. Tiny stone bridges dare to form pathways across the playful waters. Nature runs amok and there’s green wherever you turn. There’re so many shades of green that even an artist would be befuddled by the array. Kerala in the rains is spectacular !

Pic Courtesy :Premshree Pillai;flickr
Pic Courtesy :Premshree Pillai;flickr

As you drive down you’ll find tall trees bordering slick black roads, with the blue grey sky forming a stunning backdrop to the brooding trees.  There’s an explosion of green wherever the eye travels. Rambunctious wild plants clamber up walls and trees, trying to tumble out of the boundaries set by man. Mossy green walls look cool and inviting and I’m beset by a strange longing to rest  my cheeks against the smooth velvety surface and forget all my worries. Adding to my lethargic mood is the bluish grey woodsmoke lazily curling up from blackened brick chimneys. As we move on, with the only sounds coming from the swish of the wipers and the murmur of the rain, I feel at peace, with myself and with the world.

Pic Courtesy :Ananth BS;flickr
Pic Courtesy :Ananth BS;flickr

The Earth exults in the embrace of the rain and all around me is a celebration of Nature. Flowers spill out of pots. Beautiful red hibiscus , tiny white jasmine and golden yellow marigold smothering each other with an abundance of love. Every where I look, the flora refuses to remain within borders. It’s as if the greenery has come out to play. It’s difficult not to let the mind exult and leap at these sights. The emerald hued fields sway to the soundless melodies carried by the winds. The red muddy ground begs to be trampled upon and I can almost feel the squishiness of the warm gooey mud squelching between my toes. Slender coconut trees stand guard over this lush land which has after all, been named after them.

Pic Courtesy :Sreejith Kenoth
Pic Courtesy :Sreejith Kenoth

As I travel further, the wet black road stretches ahead like a satin ribbon holding the unruly greenery at bay. The rains have washed away the dirt and grime and everything looks amazingly fresh. The colourful houses of Kerala look happy and bright. They remind me of building blocks thrown haphazardly into the greenery making their presence felt by the improbable colours they sport. Almost like shining pieces of candy in a green velvet bag. I tip my head out of the car and breathe in deep lungfuls of freshness, a combination of the fresh air and crushed leaves.

Pic Courtesy ; Sreejith Kenoth;flickr
Pic Courtesy ; Sreejith Kenoth;flickr

This is one journey where I don’t want to reach my destination. The rains in Kerala have worked their magic on me. There’s a sense of expectancy in the rain soaked air, a feeling that something special is about to happen; a feeling that I’m special; a deep sense of belonging which settles over me. Kerala has once again cast a spell on me. I’m truly and totally besotted !

Pic Courtesy :Reji
Pic Courtesy :Reji


Sofa So Good

What is big, squishy (as in comfortably squishy and not surface-of-an-octopus squishy), comfortable and attractive ? I’m sorry but it’s not your favourite aunt, it’s me Le Sofa ! A single seater to be more precise .230480110 This is my attempt to chronicle my journey from a furniture store to a house. In my early days, I was comfortably ensconced in a beautiful furniture emporium, lounging around in the company of various other four-legged kith and kin of mine. The ambience was soothing and other than the owner’s atrocious taste in music, life was comfortable. I have a twin who is pesky and irritating with his insane desire to be with a family. Before long, Pesky Twin’s prayers were answered and we were bundled up and transported around like pieces of furniture. Don’t these people know that we too have feelings ? Louts ! We were deposited in an apartment which looked bright and airy. But I was not going to be placated so easily and I had already decided to hate the place. Needless to say, Pesky was in heaven. He would be part of a family, getting a ringside view of all the inside stuff. He very nearly displaced a spring in his enthusiasm ! I merely looked down my well-upholstered arm at him. But there was no stopping his eagerness.

Thankfully we were placed face to face, with a low table between us. I spied a comfy-looking couch on one side and a television on the wall. At least I could watch a couple of soaps to kill time if I got too bored. Come evening, the family trooped in after their various daily pursuits. A quick headcount showed 4 pax (pax sounds so much more exciting than the ordinary ‘person’); parents and two daughters. Oh No ! I can see a teenager ! Not something I’m looking forward to, after all the horror stories I’ve heard about them from the battered sofas who used to come to our store for some R &R, re-upholstering and recuperation. Before I could ruminate any further on my misfortune, the teen plonked down on me. Hasn’t anyone taught this teenage individual to sit like a lady instead of jumping on me like a hooligan ? Pesky Twin got the lil one, around ten years of age, who seemed to be all arms and legs, with the biggest pair of eyes I’ve ever seen. I was slightly mollified when the teen commented on how comfortable I was. Well, a word or two about my dapper appearance would also have been welcome. Well, you can’t have everything can you ?

The first few days were extremely traumatic and if my four little legs were not disproportionate to my huge body, I would have run away. To my utter horror, the teenager took a liking to me which resulted in me being used almost solely by her. The biggest problem was her approach to the whole issue of sitting. The child would be ideally suited for tracking wild animals since she’s as quite as a mouse when it comes to walking around the house, not giving me any warning of her presence.  I would suddenly see a sudden blur somewhere in the vicinity and an enormous jolt would shake my springs out of their sockets. That would be the teen taking a flying leap from miles away and landing on poor me. The attacks were always from different directions, some frontal and some from the sides. I did try to make her uncomfortable by strategically placing a couple of my springs here and there. She didn’t show any discomfort and I sadly realized that teenagers are very thick skinned, . The only saving grace of this individual was that once she landed on me she would become completely motionless. Not a muscle moved other than the occasional blink of the eyes if watching television or the slow movement of fingers and head if reading a book. I’m certain that the teen would be a valuable addition to the sloth community.

Pesky Twin too didn’t have it much easier, though his problem was diametrically opposite to what I was going through. He has a tendency to drop off from time to time and his naps are sacred. While he indulged in his favourite pastime the lil one would float along and settle on him. She was a gentle thing lost in a world of her own, who had the unfortunate tendency of drifting off to sleep whenever she curled up to watch television. Pesky, unaware of this, would open his eyes from a a sound nap to find a silent form draped over him in the most unimaginable tangle of limbs. I took great pleasure in watching him nearly jump out of his upholstery in these instances 🙂

A couple of months have passed since we moved in and it has been really an eye-opener for me. I realise that I really like being here. I have learnt to enjoy wild music with the teen. I’m gradually starting to appreciate television programs on apparently boring subjects like cars and buildings, thanks to the gentleman in this house. Gradually is the important word there. I love to watch the lady bawling her eyes out watching mushy movies, and yes I grudgingly admit, those movies are entertaining. It’s a pleasure to watch the lil one’s eyes light up when she watches cookery shows. Getting to see Nigella is of course one of the benefits !

In short, life is fun. I’d never thought that I’d enjoy ‘Fun’, but now I’m a big fan. I love the moments when the whole family, which now includes Pesky and me, gather around and share the days events and happenings. There’s a lot of laughter, like great sheets of happiness billowing in the wind. I love my teen and feel a special closeness with her. I have to hold down a smile when she’s mischievous and playful. It’s great fun to see her troubling her mother. The poor lady shouts herself hoarse trying to get my teen’s attention, who acts blissfully engrossed in a book. But by a slight tensing of her body, I know that she has heard her mom but is too lazy to get up. It’s truly amazing to see the alacrity with which she answers a call from her father though ! The mom tries from time to time, to smother Pesky and me with countless cushions. The children unhesitatingly throw them onto the unfortunate couch and rescue us. I’m happy that Pesky is also enjoying it here. I sometimes catch him sighing in contentment when nobody is around. He has even altered himself slightly by smoothing down an edge to accommodate the lil ones head, which falls onto it when she sleeps. He’s also become a huge fan of Disney movies !

I’d always dreamt of residing in a quiet, sedate household. My first couple of weeks here were certainly turbulent, but now I can’t imagine being anywhere else. Here, I’m not merely an onlooker; I’m a part of their lives and I can unhesitatingly say, ‘I’ve come home’…….

The Blue Hour

According to Wikipedia, “The blue hour is the period of twilight each morning and evening where there is neither full daylight nor complete darkness. The time is considered special because of the quality of the light”.

Pic Courtesy: John Slaney
Pic Courtesy: John Slaney

The blue hour at dawn is a magical moment when the day is like a shy bride raising her eyes to look at her partner; a look filled with joy,exultation, and anticipation to embrace her new life. I feel closest to Nature during this time, a sense of oneness with my surroundings. Nobody around to distract and no sound to break the stillness of dawn ; just me and my thoughts. The air is amazingly fresh and Nature provides a glorious treat for all the senses. At no other time do we get to see the beauty of stillness or inhale the undiluted fragrance of the air around us. Even huge buildings look so tranquil, as if they’re just catching their breath before starting another chaotic day. The first sip of coffee is laced with the aroma of the earth which fills me with such happiness. The day is stretched out before me, but at that moment I can just stand apart. There are times when I know that the day will be fraught with tension, but the blue hour is solely for me to recharge my batteries. I set my thoughts free to fly wild, to frolic and to soar. They become nomads, boldly crossing boundaries of reality which I otherwise bind them with. At times I’m a best-selling author, joyously receiving the accolades from peers and fans and at other times I become a travel junkie, scaling mountains and crossing windswept, flower-strewn valleys. Even the morning walkers seem to be part of a silent film, respecting the unspoken code of silence. The appearance of the first vehicles ushers the rest of the day in.

Pic Courtesy :Jason Mrachina
Pic Courtesy :Jason Mrachina

I love the blue hour in the evening which is a time of solace. It’s the time when everybody is returning to their nests, the time to look back and take stock of the small victories and failures of the day. This is also one of my favourite times when travelling by train. I see lights flickering on in houses; members of the family sitting around and conversing, and grandmothers and squeaky clean children praying in the warm light of oil lamps which conveys a sense of serenity and well being. At home, my children are immersed in their activities, Mr. A is immersed either in the tv or in a book and I’ve got some time before dinner pangs hit everyone. I love to stand at my balcony and gaze out at people visibly slowing down. Vegetable sellers trudging back with almost-empty carts; children sauntering back home from tuition classes engrossed in their friends’ conversations. There are couples getting back from their evening walk catching up on each others day, discussing mutual worries and concerns and rejoicing in shared triumphs. Some evenings are tinged with a streak of melancholy and regret because of hurtful words said or heard, and thoughtless actions which could have been avoided. But the sights and sounds around brings a measure of comfort to an aching heart. How can I remain sad when I hear the innocent, gleeful laughter of a child ? How can I remain unmoved by the sight of an elderly couple holding hands and helping each other carry groceries? It’s difficult to stifle a grin at the sight of the young boy trying to act nonchalant and cool when a gang of giggling girls pass by. All this reinforces the fact that life will go on, relationships will endure and the sadness will pass. The soulful strains of a song of love and longing wafting through the air soothes the turbulence in my mind.

My daughter’s call for help with her homework shakes me out of my reverie and firmly takes me back to my little world. But I look forward to the next blue hour which unfailingly greets me when I wake up the next day. Thoughts of the countless blue hours in store, to be savoured and enjoyed, brings a smile to my lips and a lightness in my heart….

My Encounter with Eternity – Travel Chronicles 5

I expected temples, ruins and beautiful landscapes in Cambodia and I was not disappointed. However what captured my heart, mind and soul was the enthralling Temple of Bayon. Situated in the centre of the Angkor Thom complex amidst thick forests without an enclosing wall, the most striking feature of this temple is the large number of massive stone faces carved on the numerous towers. Dedicated to the Buddha, there are reportedly 216 faces of which many have eroded over time. Due to the resemblance to King Jayavarman VII, there are scholars who argue that the faces are the king’s. One look at the serenity portrayed and I have no doubt that I’m looking at the Buddha.

Courtesy : Avinash, 1thouwords
Courtesy : 1thouwords

I truly wasn’t expecting something on this scale ; I must admit that I was slightly supercilious at the start of our Angkor trip. After all I’m from India, the land of temples and I’ve been seeing them in all sizes and shapes dedicated to every deity under the sun. Bayon humbled me. The faces of Lokesvara reached out to me and I was lost.

There were lots of tourists wandering all around but Bayon somehow seemed untouched by it. The faces were like sentinels from the past waiting to divulge their stories to an audience yet to arrive. I wandered around in a daze trying to assimilate all that I was seeing. There were galleries with bas reliefs depicting marching armies, kings , princesses, apsaras and even scenes from domestic life during those times, but I kept returning to the faces. Since we had not taken the children along, I could gaze uninterrupted without worrying about them. I found myself a little corner and sat down to drink in the scene.

Courtesy : 1thouwords
Courtesy : 1thouwords

I wondered what this complex would have looked like in those days, surrounded by huge green trees, splendid in it’s solitude . I thought about the kings and commoners  who might have come here seeking comfort in their times of trouble or to give thanks for their good fortune. Isn’t that what we still do in places of worship ? These faces of Buddha would have brought solace to countless generations with I’m sure remarkably similar problems. These composed countenances would surely have soothed many a troubled mind as they do now.

I couldn’t sit there indefinitely, we had to proceed to Angkor Wat. When I got up, my mind felt cleansed but it was a wrench leaving Bayon. I felt I was bidding farewell to a loved one whom I would never see again. I still had so many questions to ask Lokesvara, the compassionate Buddha. Turning back, I consoled myself that I would come here with my children when they were old enough to look beyond the  bricks and stones and see the soul of Bayon.

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